That's pretty awesome the changes that you helped initiate. I like too that the harvest will be donated. I think it's cool as it could benefit the inmates by doing something that helps others.View Thread
Sure, you may be thinking from a self-centered place, but I wouldn't look at it as good or bad, it just is. We're human, and so we have this level of thinking sometimes. Your feelings aren't wrong (or right).
Aside from that, I'd be scared too with all the change going on. Even though it's positive change, it's still stress. So try & take some deep breaths and know you guys can get through it all.
What I wonder, is why does his daughter want to live with you guys? Has she expressed that to you both? Have you considered something that would start off as a compromise? Like having her over gradually, say on the weekends (if not already)? And what can he do to compromise so that his daughter gets to spend time with him & he's around more to help?
Every time you post, even if it's a predicament like this, I think back to how much you have grown. And as hard as this all feels, it's also a good opportunity for you & you as a couple to grow even more.View Thread
I think you show your true feelings for someone by what is given freely, not by what you give out of obligation.
This is very true and something I had to learn a while ago. Can't make someone love you. I do think, however, that on occasion, if you have to tell your mate you need some attention or extra love, there's nothing wrong with that. But generally, love & intimacy should be shared on a regular basis.
As for me & mine, we see each other about every other day, sometimes more, sometimes less depending on our schedules. On the days we are with each other, the time interacting can vary too. Sometimes we're busy but just want to be around each other (like in the same home but in the other room) or just to sleep next to one another. We usually go out once a week for a date, and do something else another night also, like rent a movie or have a meal together.
When we're together, we recap the day. On the days we don't see each other, we do this also via text messaging or phone. Even if it's just to say hello, how was your day or I'm thinking of you.
All in all, I think it's just what's best for each person/couple. Both of us like to have our own space & can achieve this if we're just in different rooms. Plus, his biological clock is different than mine. He's a morning person where I prefer staying up late. So in the mornings, he's up before me & has his own time... in the night, I'm up later than him & have my own time.View Thread
I'll preface this by saying I have no idea what society or marriage was like back in the "good old days" that people reference, when they say marriage was taken seriously & people fought for love. Right now, my perception is shaped by a new love for the TV show "Mad Men." So, if the show is accurate (albeit dramatized) as I hear it is, this shapes my opinion.
Things like homosexuality and unplanned pregnancies led to marriages that weren't built on true love. Also, considering how a woman's place was to stay at home & birth children, this led to women being quite unhappy in their roles (and stay unhappy). They didn't have the freedom, legally/emotionally/physically that we have today. Women felt pressure to fit into this role & may have married the wrong person just to be accepted by society and family.
People tolerated things in a marriage that they wouldn't today because we now understand how unhealthy they are... such as abuse or addiction. Or maybe the couple just couldn't get past their issues, yet still stayed together for the sake of kids... whereas today, being divorced and a single parent is much more common & acceptable.
To say society has declined and/or the value of marriage/love has declined, to me, isn't accurate... because both periods of time had positives and negatives. We can look back on those times and think of how people are more egocentric & selfish, yet we also have also evolved in some areas. Things change, people change, for better & for worse.View Thread
I believe everyone should be treated with the same amount of respect. You may interact with people differently based on the relationship, but respect should be given to everyone on the same level, IMO. Even someone you don't like or who has wronged you. Respect can be given without it being an invitation for friendship or more.View Thread
I don't believe I've had a really romantic Valentine's Day. I don't recall anything special, but I do recall the times they sucked, LOL.
It's never been a big deal to me to do anything huge. I bought my BF a Buddha Board, which I saw in our art museum's gift shop. It's a slate that you can paint on with a brush & water; it looks like ink on the board but fades in minutes. So it's non-permanent (which is a big concept in Buddhism).View Thread
Wow. Glad you let go of that "friend" because that was something crappy she did, telling your business like that. I try not to get into name calling, but what a c u next Tuesday. I hope things get better for you.View Thread