I think before you have a heart to heart with him or any ultimatums, you have to decide what your dealbreakers are. For some people, it's some of the issues you've described. There's nothing wrong with wanting kids or to be married, but if your partner doesn't feel the same it can be a huge compatibility issue. You shouldn't wait for those things unless YOU are ok with waiting.
Striving for goals may be another dealbreaker for you. It was for me with someone I dated, who was content being complacent in life and just going with the status quo.
No couple is going to have everything in common or share every value/dream, but we each have certain qualities we want. And the ones you've described are very understandable and common. It's not like you said because he has a certain color of eyes, you are questioning your future, y'know?
I could see if he was wanting to take things gradually as for marriage or kids.. but travelling? It seems a bit odd to me & has me questioning if he's scared of commitment. Are there other indications in your relationship that would point to that? Have you met each other's friends and family? Just how much of life do you share together?View Thread
There's beggars like that throughout Toledo. I find they have a long,drawn-out story designed to throw you off track so you'll feel super bad and give them money. I'm tempted just to call them out on their BS one day. But it may not be a safe thing to do.
I'm considering telling everyone I don't want anything for Christmas. I can afford anything I need or want, and the materialism of the holiday is really getting to me this year. However, I'm enjoying all the Christmas decor much more this time. Odd. I don't even decorate at home.
I confess while in spinning class, I find I compare myself to the other women in there, as most times they're slender or of a healthy weight. I've gotten over those insecurities a long time ago in the gym, but for some reason it's coming back a little bit. I feel great for being my weight and sweating it out in a tough workout class. I feel like a normal sized, fit person with an overweight shell (for now).View Thread
Speaking of VS, the news reported that at our local mall there was a fight inside that store. Sheesh. Good thing you don't work there anymore. It seems illegal for them not to have allowed you guys breaks.View Thread
Exactly! And I think it's crap that all these places now open Thanksgiving night or even at midnight, so their employees have to worry about ending their holiday early.
I also don't understand why it's such craziness and why we let it be that way. Camping out in line for a day to get a super deal on something you probably don't need anyhow? Insanity. Or why don't these places just offer these deals during normal business hours?!View Thread
You would think that would be the case... but if they'd been a victim of it their self, and never truly dealt with it, acknowledged it or maybe had repressed it, it could've lead to looking the other way. Plus, from my understanding, some who abuse have been abused their self.View Thread
It's something that is relevant currently and is of course a very hot topic. People feel passionately about this and for different reasons. I myself am trying not to invest too much into how awful it all is, and in the process of an online debate, resulted in people thinking I was in support of the rioting and destruction that happened on campus.
I have wondered if some of the people who looked the other way, had been victims of sexual abuse and if that influenced their lack of actions. But overall, it seems to be just how highly people hold sports and its legends.
I'm assuming what differs with saying Paterno is allegedly wrong, is that he did the minimum in a legal manner and also because he admitted he could have done more?View Thread
He sure did admit it. I couldn't believe he said as much as he did and how much it sounded like this was to be his legal defense. BUT it was before everything went down in the media.
In my eyes, the fallout against Paterno is justified since he admitted he didn't do enough. So regardless of if Sandusky is guilty or not, Paterno still didn't follow through as he morally/ethically should have.
I would wager that it was less a lack of moral common sense and more about ego/power, as for how it continued for so long, unreported or uninvestigated. The district attorney who failed to prosecute Sandusky in 98 went missing in 2005. Now that, may or may not be related, but I find it very odd.View Thread
I don't think it should be looked at as him having to pick between the ex and the GF, but rather that both women are important in his life and in different ways. If his involvement with the ex is unhealthy to his relationship, it doesn't mean that he has to pick one or the other, or that one woman is more important than the other.
OK, so she wouldn't give him the key back... what did HE do about it? Did he change the locks? Does she still have the key if he didn't change the locks??? Are there other instances in which she's controlling?
I believe you have to take a stand against behavior that is detrimental to your relationship. Remember, if she is controlling him or butting in where she has no business (such as things that don't concern their kids), he is ALSO a part of that behavior because he's letting it happen. So while you can take a stand, it's still his decision.View Thread