Sorry you felt uncomfortable. I think it would have freaked me out. But with what Guard said, I am assuming he probably thought you were hot and wanted to show someone. Still weird. But probably harmless.
I too, have that feeling that my SO is going to wake up and be like why am I with her??? lol.... It's just part of the process of adjusting to being in a normal relationship. You (and I) will get there
Glad you feel better! And that your SO is getting help for his sleep apena.View Thread
Honestly, I think I am more open to change and talking about it then he is. I think he is pretty set in his ways. However, I am not going to give up and as long as I feel things are moving in the right direction, then I will keep trying. I dont plan on moving in with him until the majority of the issues are resolved anyways, and that wouldnt be until the summer, so we have some time.
Thank you. That is exactly what I am thinking. Could not of said it better myself.
When I posted a couple months ago about my son and his behavior I was told by every poster to get him help, work on his behavior, no one wants to be around a bratty kid, etc. etc. (And I took all of that advice serious, worked on it and things are better) Yet, because they are teenagers it's okay to steal cars, sneak out, steal, demand things from your parent, yell at them? etc, etc.View Thread
I do want to follow up and say. I try to understand that they are teenagers. And we do have a lot of enjoyable time together. And I care about the kids. It's my SO's response to thier behavior. He blows it all off. He truly babies thems and spoils them. I guess my issue is, what is the best way to approach it and work on it so we can come to an agreement and continue to move forward? This is the man I want to marry and spend the rest of my life with. But the way he is with the kids, makes me really question it. And maybe I am just not suited to be a step parent. But I want to at least try.View Thread
I guess to me, it's okay to act that way to your parents, but what about other adults? Should I just accept it because that is how teenagers act? I am asking in all seriousness. I have to expect my son to accept my SO and behave better and adjust some of his behaviors to suite everyone's needs and make things more enjoyable for all of us. Am I wrong to expect the same thing for his kids?
And to me, it's not typical stuff. Yelling up the stairs to her dad "I AM READY TO GO HOME NOW! WHAT IS TAKING YOU SO LONG!" while he was upstairs getting his keys to take her home.View Thread
I guess for me, what makes it so hard, is that there are 4 kids with different wants, needs,complaints, etc that I have to deal with and that is hard for me. It's like someone always needs something.
And with the 15 yr old, yes what she is doing is somewhat typical. To be honest, I was doing a lot of the same stuff at her age, I just wasnt getting caught. My main issue though, is that my SO isnt really adressing these issues with her. And it's something that needs to be discussed. He cant allow her to continue these behaviors because it's only going to mess up her life. Instead it's like it's easier for him to not deal with it or push it aside.
And to me, I know teenagers can be snotty, but to me have some respect for your parents. I even knew that as I kid. I never would of talked to my mom they way they talk to their dad at times. I apperciated each and every thing that my mom and dad did for me. I was grateful. These kids just seem to expect everything and give nothing in return.
I guess it comes down to, what I can and can not handle.
I had a hard time figuring out what the problem was for so long. But while I do think it's the kids, I think a lot of it is my SO's reaction or the way he handles them.
I would get really defensive when he would "critque" me about my son. So I dont want to do that to him. I apperciated his input into my son's behavior and really it helped me realize a lot of things.
But it does frustrate me, when he has a "problem" with my son's typical 6 yr old behavior, and he doesnt recognize his own kid's fault. And I dont want it to be, well your kid does this and that, etc. But sometimes I feel that way. Like who are you to say anything about my son when your kids are running around acting like brats too?
I have made it clear to him that until he makes some changes we can not move forward. And I would expect the same, if he felt that my son's behavior was something he couldnt live with on a day to day basis.
I hope I did a good job explaining the problem. There is just a lot to the whole situation.
I need help in dealing with all of this. I dont want to lose him, but I dont want to have to deal with out of control kids my whole life either. And I will say, it's the attitude and lack of respect, expectation of having everything they want, that bothers me the most. The babying of the girls.