My daughter recently broke up with her boyfriend of about 2 years. My wife and I have long wanted her to do so, but we tried not to get involved. So we were rather happy when they finally did break up. She is turning 20 soon. About 5 years ago, a young man contacted me about doing some business together baling hay. It isn't my full time job, but in the summers I do it to keep the costs down at our horse boarding stable. Through the years, he and I became good friends. He helps me do a lot of work around the farm, and I pay him for the help, but he also helps with other things and goes on road trips with me when I need the company.
I suppose to him I am more of a father figure, his dad is pretty much a dead beat, and he contacted me after his grandfather passed away and he didn't have anyway of getting the fields baled. He grandfather pretty much raised him.
But I pretty much talked to him daily and I can always count on him when I need his help. He said from the beginning he would never date my daughter due to the fact that our business relationship and friendship was more important to him, so he wouldn't let a woman get in the way of that.
Well after my daughter broke up I noticed my daughter started to do more things with him and I. And soon they were doing things together just as friends, since she didn't really have a lot of things to do. Well after a week or two I figured out that they were definitly doing more than hanging out.
I am sad because I feel that he has betrayed our friendship, I really do like him, but would not have picked him for her to date. Primarily because he told me everthing about his previous relationships. I guess I lived vicariously through his adventures, but now I don't like the thought of him being with my daughter in that manner. And I am not sure if our friendship can ever be the same now.
Then I also have issues with my daughter becoming intimate with him rather quickly. I know that most of the women I dated, I had in bed the first date, including her mother, my wife. But I sort of hold a higher standard for my daughter. I know that were because she would say she was going out and then wouldn't be home wihen I would leave for work early in the morning. I don't know what to expect today, but I would have been happy if they dated for a year or two before having sex. lol
So I have a couple issues I guess, losing a friend or at least losing some aspects of our relationship and my daughter being intimate with him so quickly so often.
Maybe somewhat a vent but I need some where to vent about it.View Thread
I have been getting along with him ok. He is a decent young man. Only problem is he isn't super motivated to get a real job. He does work for me on occasion, but I am not in the position to hire someone full time. A good friend of mine hired him full time about 2 years ago, and he did a good job. He just felt he worked to hard for the amount of pay. So he quit and went to work for his ex girlfriends father, he did that until this past summer then quit to bale hay with me. I can keep him busy about two months of the year doing hay.
My neighbor wanted to talk to him about a full time job, but he didn't even go down to talk to him. I have talked to him about starting a couple businesses. And I believe he would work hard in a venture like that, but the businesses I have thought of starting with him require some capital and I am not in the position to invest a ton of money in the unknown right now.
So for now they are having fun, and hopefully it will be a happy story.View Thread
Just curious how it came about that you kissed her? That has to be an awkward situation for a barely 18 year old girl.
Personally I don't see it working out. If she isn't into the bi thing, then she will never be interested in you. And your never going to be happy with your husband being in love with another, thinner, bigger boobed, younger woman.
In actuallity your husband should back off all together from her. It isn't fair that an older man, working in an enviroment were pretty much everyone else is going to be barely 18, is hitting on the young girls. Especially since he is married with children. There still are things called morals, and I don't think he is showing very good ones. Even if you are ok with another woman somehow in your relationship, it doesn't seem that this is the correct way of going about it.View Thread
Are you still around? Doesn't look like you have posted for a while. Seems like you may have broke up with your boyfriend from somethings I have seen on facebook. Just wanted to check on you.View Thread
It might help if you were more specific about the mistakes that were made. At this point I would assume that each of you cheated with someone else.
Being able to forgive is something you will have to decide if you can do. First decide if you are willing to forgive and if you want to stay with our partner.
Then you have to decide under what conditions you would be willing to forgive them. Realize that even if you do forgive you will never forget. But once you have forgiving them you must be willing to forgive and not bring up the past.
And having a partner means that you do have to take them into consideration with all of your actions, as they all will also effect them. So it is a fine line between having a life of your own and being considerate of the other person in your life.View Thread
So at this point I am a little confused about my own situation. We have a great life together, seldom argue about anything. We both have decent jobs and seem to be doing ok. We have a wonderful daughter that I am very proud of.
I just can't figure out how to address the drinking. I have asked her if she felt it was a problem and she says it is not. I have pointed out some issues and she says that aren't really issues. Suddenly I have become more mature and realized we are more than half way towards retirement. So I have started on getting things ready for that.
Generally I can deal with her drinking and can have fun when she is drinking. As I previously mentioned she has somethings in her past she might just be drinking to forget about.
The boat is in tennessee being restored so it should be a good year for going out on the boat.
My main concern I suppose is her health. I hate to be working hard towards retirement and then her not make it there with me.
But I am still over weight so I suppose I could not make it there too.View Thread
I agree with queston. Try buying a different vibrator just for use with the two of you. Buy something nice and better than what she has, then let her know in a nice way it is for use only when both of you are participating.View Thread