So I don't get much time anymore to post. Thought I would stopby and see what everyone was up to, and see if anyone would like to confess anything about 2012. I confess that I love my boat. We had a blast on it all summer and I can't wait until next summer. My hay balers thought I was crazy when I bought it, but they wound up loving it too.View Thread
Well there isn't really any excuse for his behavior. Consider yourself lucky to have gotten out when you did. The hard part is over, so leave it at that and move on. His anger would have probably progressed further to violence.View Thread
I don't think that marriages in the 40's and 50's lasted because there was no internet porn. I think women didn't have the ability to support themselves as easily as they do now so they just stayed in sorry relationships, because they had no other options.
It seems as soon as there is a medium someone tries to use it in a sexual manner. There have been sexual photo's as long as there has been photography. Just because they didn't have the internet doesn't mean they were not looking.
Porn being a problem depends on the individuals, just like anything else. Many people will put up with crap that others will not. A young man that works for me is in the process of breaking it off with his girlfriend of two years because every time he comes to my farm to work she accuses him of doing so to see my daughter. Even though he has assured her and given her no reason to think such a thing. But she is just ridiculously jealous and he doesn't want to deal with it anymore.
So her insecurity has cost her a relationship.
This board shows how many bad relationships exist and the variety of problems with them. Sex seems to be a very prominent problem with most of them.
Seems like it should be easy to figure out if you are sexually compatiable before you get married. Why marry someone that doesn't have the same sexual desires that you do. But then again why marry someone that physically abuses you while you are dating. If they abuse you when you aren't married what makes you think they would stop?
If they don't like to have sex as often as you like to, what makes you think it would change. If they cheat on you when you are dating, are they going to stop?
Relationships are complicated and everyone has their own opinion and thoughs on making them work.View Thread
She started back drinking then more to escape my mother. Would just be a glass of wine in the evening. And her friends at work started a wine club. They would meet once a month at someones house and tasted wines.
Some where along the line she discovered her favorite drink. And now she seems to always have a glass in her hands on the weekends.
Maybe I should stay home more to watch what is going on. I do the things I do to provide money for everything we and my daughter do. And some where along the line I have drifted off.View Thread
I guess I am a little passive. And maybe I am disengaged in too many ways.
Looking back I am not sure when her alcohol problems started. I know she hated her life as a child and teen and was very rebelious. She partied a lot in high school. Probably wasn't the kind of girl I would have dated. Also has told me she was sexually abused by one of her brothers.
Then got married at 18, and they partied alot. He would often be abusive when he was drinking. They divorced after a few years.
She was wild for a while after her divorce and we started dating some where in there. We partied some to. At first I really was just after some sex. Didn't think I would stay around. Some where in there I fell in love.
I never was a big drinker so I could go out and still come home pretty sober. But she would go to some friends and come home sloshed and would start trying to pick a fight with me. I wouldn't go for it though. Maybe that is what went on with her first husband. Finally I threatened to leave if she continued so she stopped.
Generally I am getting everything ready and she packs the lunch and her drinks. I bring a cooler of water and other drinks. And I sometimes put 2 beers in there in case I am feeling like a drink. She puts her drink in the food cooler. I don't really think about it in the morning, I just figure it out later in the day.
At this point I guess I just have to live with it.
Like the Willie Nelson song says " there's more old drunks than there are old doctors, so I guess we better have another round."
Maybe I will start drinking more when we both retire and I don't have the farm anymore.View Thread
Yes I could start drinking more so it wouldn't bother me so much when she is wasted. But I really don't enjoy drinking that much. Especially the next day. There is a lot more work that has to get done around the farm, that I have to do each day.
And I wouldn't mind it so much if it was just a few drinks. But the getting totally wasted is beyond me. We went out on the boat again yesterday, and I didn't realize how much she had to drink once again, until we were leaving. I was loading up the boat and she disappearred. She had went up the hill to take the dog for a walk, but she didn't tell me where she was going. And then when everything was ready to go, I couldn't find her. So I was going to drive to the top parking area to see if that was where she was. About then my buddy thought he heard her, so I stopped. And she came walking up. But she was in the middle of the road and a truck coming the other was almost ran her over.
On the way home she didn't talk much and once again headed to bed early.
I love the boat and have a lot of fun, but I don't need it as a reason for my wife to get drunk. I thought It would bring us together.. Seems to be pushing us further apart.View Thread
Well my wife still likes to drink a little too much. I have talked to her about it. And she doesn't think it is a problem, but sometimes she just over does it a little too much.
Saturday she had invited her brother and sister and their spouses to go boating with us. The brothers sister couldn't make it. So the five of us went out and had a great time. Was like a bunch of kids out playing on the water. The three siblings all talked about how horrible their childhood was, which it was pretty bad. And they all drank quite a bit. The two sisters did the most drinking though.
By the time everyone left the house around 7:30 pm my wife was toasted. She went to take a shower and then straight to bed. Never ate dinner or anything. I spent the evening alone on the couch watching TV.
And then today I came to work to get in 16 hours of overtime.View Thread