Have you tried posting this on the Back Pain Community or the Pain Management Community? I'm certain other members on those may have more knowledge or experience with this. Also, you might try searching for another closely related community using this link:
I'm not sure what types of or specialists you have seen for Dr's, The pain mgmt Dr I was seeing thought he could help me with my issue, although I had to extend my search and care to an Orthopedic Spine Specialist/Surgeon to get the proper diagnosis(hopefully he got it right as it took 2 1/2yrs with the other Dr's) and treatment plan that did any good for me.
Stopping 2 vices at the same time can be sooo very difficult. I genuinely hope she has a strong and healthy support network to help with her goal. I remember that you yourself have a busy time schedule and I hope there will be minimal backlash from withdrawing from these vices for both of you. Sending prayers and good luck your way.View Thread
Sorry for not getting back to the discussion sooner. I how do you feel now about the incident after having your son? Take into consideration that hormones are still flowing now. How have things been for the two of you since learning about this?View Thread
What occured, happened, when you found out about the sexting when you were 2 mos pregnant? Do you consider the sexting as cheating( I ask because it varies from person to person as what their beliefs are)? How old are the two of you, and how long have you been married, together? Are you currently seperated? Where is your husband now?
More questions than answers or supoort. Sorry about that. More information would be helpful. As painful as this is for you, I'm certain you are experiencing many emotions. Recognizing those will be beneficial for you. With the limited information given I can only suggest a form of counseling for yourself.View Thread
I agree with the previous poster that secretively taking a day off from work while your spouse is away, especially for Dr's appts., is rather peculiar. Why would a spouse do that and keep it a secret!?! does he have a gambling problem or something? You mentioned 'somewhat turbulent', are you describing the marital relationship dynamics or the blended family dynamics? From what you've written, I would consider he was/is possibly cheating or at the very least a gigantic flirt, perhaps to stroke his ego. And if there isn't solid proof as you say, it's anyones guess. Have you mentioned couples counseling to them, as it seems as though there maybe deeper issues involved here.View Thread
As the other poster mentioned, the aging process does change a variety of things and there is no set age or time frame for this or changes to occur. How old is your wife(yourself)? Also as previously mentioned is that time has an effect on different things for couples in different ways. If your wife initiated for the most part during your more active years she may feel it's her turn to feel wanted and desired. Plus, think of all the changes happening around us, and how it is and/or maybe effecting her. Is there some sort or kind of stressors that may be on her mind? Do you have children? How long have you been going on business trips? Is the importance of passion and desire from your wife what or is the only thing that attracts you to your wife? Is that what makes a marriage in your eyes?
It is true that just because a person in such a situation whose libido has declined some does not mean they don't find their partner attractive. I don't think you're asking for too much, however, perhaps how you are going about it, maybe demanding it, is too much. If the times of engagement are pleasurable, why not continue to initiate them? I don't think this would be cause for divorce for myself.View Thread