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I'm guessing the OW sent such a text to put feelers out to see where you are or stand so far in this. That's sometimes how people do it, to see where and how you are without accepting responsibility. Or I could read it as somewhat of an apology when she texted stating that she was probably the last person you want hear from, and she was remembering a happy event with you which may be tearing her up with some guilt. It's anybodys guess, I don't know anything about her. Is there any way you can block her texts or calls, even temporarily? I don't think you need to concern yourself with that end of this any time soon.
Do you find yourself reaching out for reassureance in some ways to your husband? Like the moments that you feel a need for a hug and some closeness, that he's there for you by your side where he feels your pain and wishes or wants to take it all away. Comfort. Has something similar to this come up during your sessions/appts, even showing care and concern by reaching out and hold the others hand? Or maybe nows not the time for that.View Thread

I think it's possible that there's a part of you that is screaming inside of you, wanting to 'spill the beans' with them and get it out of your system that is fighting the other part of you that may be feeling shame, as well as caring not to burden them in their current situation. Like you're all alone, not having anyone to share this with, bounce things off of, or a support system. I'm understanding that you are very close with this part of the family, and maybe you are feeling somewhat guilty for 'not' sharing this with them(although for the right reason).
As wonderful and thoughtful of a gift that they gave you, I can understand your mixed feelings surrounding it. As quickly as we would like to get past or get through something like this, it still takes some time to process and heal. Believe it or not even for some couples that have seperated from the same issue.
Just a thought, how is your health in general otherwise? Are there other possible variants that maybe intensifying or adding things to this for you? Do you exercise? What are you doing for you personally, get that good feeling about you sort of things?View Thread

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I think it would be in your and your daughters best interest if you did go to some counseling. Not necessarily for your marriage, for yourself and inturn for your daughter. It could better able you to sort some of these things out for you and her.
Have you thought of returning to school?View Thread

If you have already made up your mind for certain that you will not be returning to the marriage or relationship without any doubts or chance for regret, then why not. It does sound as though you may be jumping from the pan into the fire some, and at the same time only you know how you feel deep down. Why not just hang out with friends or as friends?View Thread


Good Luck!View Thread

Did or have you had some counseling to help you identify with the healing process and learn coping strategies? What steps have you and your husband taken to repair your marriage after this happened? Without resentment, how does your husband otherwise in general behave, view, feel and think of your relationship/marriage and the like towards the children?
It's not uncomon for certain events to trigger a persons emotions, bring flashbacks and almost like re-living everything all over again.
Has your husband shown you remorse? Has he and/or is he putting an effort into rebuilding or regaining your trust?View Thread


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