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What's your addiction Is it money Is it girls Is it weed I've been afflicted by not one, not two, but all three.

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lol, I guess it's bad when the *community* is telling you someone is crazy eh? ...

What's your addiction Is it money Is it girls Is it weed I've been afflicted by not one, not two, but all three.

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I am responding to the opening post in this thread so no one thinks I'm directing...

What's your addiction Is it money Is it girls Is it weed I've been afflicted by not one, not two, but all three.

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I am responding to the opening post in this thread so no one thinks I'm directing my response at them.

I remember someone telling me once that I had no right to give them advice on raising their child because I didn't have any (children). Now that I have my son full-time all that "knowledge" I thought I had went directly out the window. You truly don't know the situation unless you have gone through yourself.

I knew I needed to end things with my sons mother about 10 months before I actually did it. The number one reason was my feelings towards her which were so strong at that point that I just refused to give up.

I'm assuming if you're legally married and have professed undying love, and commitment, loyalty, etc in front of a group of people you would want to fight tooth and nail to keep your marriage together. Even if it isn't a happy marriage. Humans by nature hate failure. A divorce is a sign to everyone in the world that your marriage failed (regardless of the reason).

A lot of people don't divorce because of the children. And yes, we've heard many times that it would be better to divorce than for your children to be in an unstable environment (even I've said it a few times). But, I believe Questons daughter is his foster-daughter (or there is a foster-child somewhere in the mix). That might be another reason as to why he's hesitant to divorce. I'm not entirely sure how the courts would handle that.

Maybe this is fairly new in the relationship. If you have 25 years of marriage, and one spouse acts like a complete fool for 1-2 years of it... I think you've done a pretty good job. Especially if it's not harming you, nor your children in a financial, or physical aspect. Yes, his wife is with-holding sex... and having experienced that myself, I can tell you... it's a pain and horror you just can't explain (not exaggerating). But, from his post his child/children are well taken care of. There is no physical abuse, etc.

I'm in no way saying that Queston should divorce, nor am I saying that he should stay in the marriage. I don't know, seeing as though we're only hearing about the bad things in his marriage (this is why the board was created I'm assuming). When I was having problems in my relationship everyone on here on heard about the negative aspects of it, because this was my way to vent, calm down, etc. Maybe it's the same with him. Maybe his wife really isn't that bad. I dunno... but I can certainly understand why he's so hesitant to divorce at this moment.

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What's your addiction Is it money Is it girls Is it weed I've been afflicted by not one, not two, but all three.

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What's your addiction Is it money Is it girls Is it weed I've been afflicted by not one, not two, but all three.

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Heh... I did that for a short time also. Then I just slowly moved away from it (the...

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Why is everything that's suppose to be bad... makes me feel good

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And what phase would that be?

Daughters, lock up your mothers! I'm single again!

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One of the things that I find disturbing about this is that your wife *originally*...

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Since we're getting to know eacother once again. How's your son?

Daughters, lock up your mothers! I'm single again!

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"YOU BETTER NOT GOT MARRIED ON ME BEFORE I GOT YOYOU FIRST!!!" Good God woman......

Daughters, lock up your mothers! I'm single again!

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