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Here's my point: if he grew up aware of variations in sexual orientation, explored love/sex with both men and women, and then fell in love with and married a woman (you), then we could reasonably considered his sexual orientation and what kind of life he wants to live, and he chose to marry you (and you knew about his presumed bisexuality going into the relationship).
BUT, if he grew up in a more closed-minded environment, where he might not have been able to honestly assess these things and learn what kind of person he was and what kind of person he would love, then you might have a little more to worry about as far as him "coming out" one day. If this is the case, then maybe some counseling (for him as well as for you as a couple) might be a good idea before starting a family.
As far as the shemale porn and his desire for anal sex, I don't really think those are much of a factor here. Porn and masturbation are about fantasy: it's kind of logical that a bisexual person might find that kind of porn a stimulating fantasy. And anal sex? Well, lots of straight people like anal sex.View Thread

However, about 6 years ago, my wife did pretty-much unilaterally decide to take a lower-stress job that paid about 15% less. Shortly after that, the economy crashed and our salaries have grown very little since, so that 15% cut has hit us pretty hard. I try very hard not to feel resentment over than, but every time she complains about money, that nags at me.
*My* interpretation of that is that it's much safer for couples to make financial decisions jointly. Individuals in a marriage or other long-term couple relationship having major financial autonomy seems like a dangerous recipe, to me.View Thread

Since you make more, this would hit his income a little harder, percentage-wise. You could compensate by picking up more of your other expenses (meals, entertainment, etc), or you could kick in a little more for larger joint expenses on an ad hoc basis.
Kicking in by percentage is also fair, in a different sort of way, but I think it would inevitably lead to the feeling among one or both of you that there is an imbalance in decision making power with respect to that joint money.View Thread

My wife has a .5-carat diamond. (We have been married 25 years.) Never once have I felt even the slightest touch of inadequacy about that. If anything, buying a diamond at all is really fairly silly for those of us who are not wealthy.
Watch those house-buying shows on HGTV some time: it's just astonishing what young adults of modest or medium financial means feel that they just have to have in their home: granite countertops, expensive plumbing fixtures, the latest in-vogue floorings, etc. It's really kindof sad, how middle-class and working-class people allow the luxuries that wealthy people can afford to influence what they want (or think they need) so much.
(And these things are not even utilitarian: expensive stone countertops are not really any more functional than the more affordable alternatives. And a large diamond is not necessarily more beautiful than a small one.)View Thread

I realize the stigma about divorce is very real in your culture and family, but at a certain point you need to take care of yourself. You are the one who is responsible for that. It may well be for the best to get out now, while you are young and there are no children involved. (And, for heaven's sake, make sure there continue to be no children involved.)View Thread

Do you really want someone with such a stunning lack of empathy and personal responsibility to be your partner in raising your daughter?
I think you should trust yourself. Your reactions toward him seem appropriate to me. I'd call those attorneys if I were you.View Thread

I think you got some excellent advise from tlkittycat : just because your choice of husbands may seem like a poor one now, that doesn't mean it was a poor decision on your part or that you should question your ability to make decisions. Sometimes things just go bad--learn from it and move on.
And while I agree that this is probably not the time for a serious relationship, it could be the time fro some casual, no-strings attached dating. If nothing else, it my be good fro your self-esteem, which seems a little bruised right now. It's a nice little pick-me-up to learn that others find you attractive, I would imagine.View Thread

You might want to run this question by your attorney, just to be sure.View Thread

Do you have a separation agreement which addresses whether or not fidelity is expected in the period between your separation and the final divorce?
Depending on the answers to those questions, I don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with some casual dating. It's obviously not the ideal time to enter a serious relationship.View Thread

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