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I need some emotional venting...

I don't even know where to start. I have great friends and family who are supporting me right now but I...

Posted by lostandconfused

I don't even know where to start. I have great friends and family who are supporting me right now but I needed an anonymous audience too...my husband and I have been married a little over two years now. About two months ago, he told me that he'd been unhappy for a while (like a year and a half). I was shocked and hurt that he'd never said anything. We talked about what would make him feel more loved and happier. I did everything and more. A couple weeks later, we talked again and I wanted to know if he was feeling better. Apparently, not really, because he told me that he has fallen out of love with me and has no loving feelings anymore, in spite of everything I do and am willing to do...

He has recently become friends with a group of people and they go out a lot. There is also one girl in particular that he texts/talks to constantly. They work together and he insists that they are friends. He hangs out with her and her boyfriend (along with other people) quite frequently. I don't think that the boyfriend matters, because why is she texting my husband all day/night and in the middle of the night too? Do friends ever have an excuse to do this? I couldn't take how I was being treated and left three weeks ago...he is so emotionally shut down and I am so lost. He said he needed space to figure out what he wanted. I love him so much and believe that we can make this so much better than before, but only if he makes the choice to do so...If he doesn't make the choice to be with me and fix this, then I know that I deserve happiness and have to move on.

Has anybody ever dealt with a similar situation? I believe that he doesn't have physical and romantic emotions for this girl, because he truly is a good man and I don't believe would lie to me at this point (what's the point in lying; we're already separated). However, he seems to be so blind to the inappropriate relationship that he has with this girl. I feel like I'm going crazy and living in a twilight zone right now...View Thread

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Emotionally Cheating

My husband has been emotionally cheating for 4 months, but he won't admit that anything physical ever...

Posted by HurtAndConfused

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FOUND OUT HE CHEATED AND LIED A YEAR AGO.PLS ANY A...

I found out about a month ago that my now fiancÃ© cheated on me a year ago(for a period of...

Posted by Mommyof3withaBrokenheart2

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I need help...

I need help on my relationship...I have a boyfriend who likes me A LOT. He's very nice and very generous, but...

Posted by An_242343

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weird fetishes

What are some of the weirdest fetishes you have. You can answer anon if you want to.

Posted by Springisnear

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My girlfriend might be bi

Recently my girlfriend of a year and a half has been talking to a friend which happens to be a lesbian. This...

Posted by An_229030

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Husband Unemployed - Need Advise

My husband has been out of work for about a year and a half. Thankfully I have a good job that pays all the...

Posted by Intrepid66

My husband has been out of work for about a year and a half. Thankfully I have a good job that pays all the household bills. I've tried really, really hard to be super-patient but I'm getting a little more frustrated each day.

It's not that he isn't trying - he's sent out over 1000 resumes for his old field and gotten zero leads. The problem is, before the recession hit he was really wanting to leave the corporate world and start a new career in an artistic field. When he got laid off, he saw it as an opportunity and incorporated a business, and a big chunk of his severance went towards supplies. I had some concerns about this but he's always succeeded at everything else he's ever done and I wanted to be supportive. We both truly hoped the new business would take off (he actually IS very talented). Unfortunately, it hasn't. Despite advertising and offering discounts, in this economy people just don't need the services and he's had just 6 paying art jobs in 18 months for very little money each time.

But he refuses to go on unemployment because the benefits would stop as soon as he got another paid art job, and he's holding out hope that things will magically turn around. This is becoming a big problem because all his credit cards are maxed out and the creditors are now calling multiple times a day. Last year I gave him all my savings and he used all of our tax refunds to help pay his bills, but by keeping the household afloat I now no longer have much extra myself. But every time I try to bring up the unemployment thing, he gets really defensive. I totally understand that in some way it means admitting defeat.

How do I tell him it's time to bite the bullet, get on unemployment, try to get whatever kind of paying job he can find even if it's at Starbucks, and realize that the art thing may have to remain a hobby until he's back on his feet? And still be supportive?View Thread

Posted by Intrepid66

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re: hello this is sean cameron

Hello I have a material question? how do I get back into my wifes life after having problems in our marriage....

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ORAL SEX/VAGINAL SEX/ PLEASE HELP!

EVERY SINCE MY BF CHEATED ON ME I CANT ENJOY SEX ANYMORE, OR EVEN LIKE KISSING HIM, I DONT EVEN LIKE GIVING...

Posted by An_229028

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Relationship and children

My fiance and I found out we are having a baby, due April, and today we just found out it was a girl. We...

Posted by An_229026

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Thinking for myself

I was just reading through some of the other boards. I could not stand it that everyone has the same opinion....

Posted by An_229021

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how can i make my husband understand that its not ...

ok so my whole pregnancy my hsband has lied to me about different things and i cant understand why he does,...

Posted by katie_0910

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Suspicious behavior

My husband and I have been married 13 years. We are happily married most of the time. THis last year was a...

Posted by An_229018

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Age Gap

I am currently dating a man 20 years my senior. I am 26 and he is 46/ twice divorced with two boys 10...

Posted by AlwaysHope4Eva

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cheating???

I have been married to my husband for almost 14 years, have 2 beautiful kids, and thought everything was...

Posted by hurtokwife

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way for couples to cope

what can a couple do to help out their relationship .after the girl had cheated on him alot of time with...

Posted by An_229039

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Emotional Cheating or Actual Cheating?

My fiance and I have been together for two years and engaged for just as long. (He proposed to me after a...

Posted by An_229038

My fiance and I have been together for two years and engaged for just as long. (He proposed to me after a month into our relationship.) Last June, I discovered that he had been posting and responding to craigslist ads to women and giving them his phone number. (I have to say he has not had a job nor a car since I met him so I support his financially.) As soon as I confronted him, he was very angry and accusing me of breaking into this privacy and placing the blame on me, while trying to lie and say that it wasn't all him, that he was trying to get girls for his friend. Then he just decided to admit it was him being stupid. Then it all stopped for a while and then started back up again just recently. He has always been against social networking sites like facebook and myspace and he spent an entire evening well into the morning chatting with a girl via facebook chat. She sent him a friends request, he accepted but then I checked his email again and she sent him nude pictures and he sent her two pictures of his genitalia while he was sitting in the same room right across from me and I was sleeping. As soon as I had the opportunity, I deleted her off his facebook, and blocked her email from emailing him. Last night I had to fake being really sick so he wouldn't get onto his laptop and this morning when I checked his email, she sent him another request so I got into his facebook, ignored her request and blocked her from ever contacting him again. I know this all sounds pyscho but my fiance thinks I'm stupid. He doesn't know I know his passwords but when I asked him yesterday about accepting his request, he said they talked about her being a fan of his blogs on some other site and blah blah blah... That he would never cheat, loves me, blah blah blah. My reasoning is this. I do not feel the need to do such things to him so should I kick him out and cease all contact if he confronts me on why he can't get a hold of her and because lied to my face continually? He has lied to me over and over again and he doesn't know that I have the proof. He saw me in tears, and how hurt I was that he has done this but does not seem to care.View Thread

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Survey for Medical or Mental Health Professionals

Hello, My name is Amanda and I am a junior at Bentley University. I am currently taking a course on...

Posted by eytana_girl

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Emotional Cheating

My husband has been in an emotional affair since August. I don't think any physical contact has been made...

Posted by An_229032

My husband has been in an emotional affair since August. I don't think any physical contact has been made because they live on opposite coasts. It came to light when the other woman's husband discovered some text messages and gifts. He called me and told me about it. I confronted my husband. I had been experiencing some libido issues and he was feeling like I wasn't into him any more. I told him that I wanted to figure it out. I love him and this is the first bump we had and if we can figure it out, maybe our relationship will get stronger. He agreed. Well the other woman and her husband actually got divorced over this.

I take medicine for depression. My primary care physician switched up my medicine to help with my libido issues and I started to see a psychiatrist. They both told me it might take a while to notice a difference. My husband still seemed different and very distant. I was kind of expecting flowers or some kind of 'butt kissing' but that didn't happen. I was confused. I was in the process of looking for a marriage counselor. I planned a getaway for the two of us to focus on each other. Then one night I just felt suspicious. I couldn't take it anymore so I went snooping. I found emails supporting that my suspicions were true. Very flirty emails back and forth and an indication that they had phone sex previously. Then I found mix CD's she made him along with other gifts.

I confronted him again. And he said he didn't know what his problem was and that he loves me and wants to be with me. We started to see a marriage counselor. He agreed that all contact with her would be broken off.

Then a week later I found a present from her to him with a flirty note. And I check the cell phone bill. There were 3,263 out going texts and 3,331 incoming. I looked at my outgoing 76 and incoming 73 and thought... well he's been interacting with someone other than me quite a bit. I confronted him with both of these things. And he says that she is very upset about the divorce and upset about him trying to fix things with me. She had been committed to the hospital for depression and that she tried to hurt herself and he didn't want that on his head. Our counselor said that in order for our marriage to continue, he needs to cut off contact.

After that I was really not wanting to have sex with him. And I was very very upset. He keeps putting it back on me... that I don't make him feel appreciated and that he feels that I'm just not into him. My friends think I'm crazy for trying to continue to fix things. People ask me "do you really think they are going to stop talking? Divorce and marriage counseling isn't working."

I could tell he was trying to be extra nice and he put in a lot of effort. This lasted a couple of weeks and then I felt the distance again. I got the feeling she was back in the picture. Last week I checked our home phone records. She called my house and talked to him for 2 and a half hours while I was out having a team dinner with my co-workers. WTF!!! Then they talked for another hour and a half the next night.

I confronted him again. He blows it off again saying I don't give him attention.... She just needs someone to talk to. blah blah blah. Well now I am making him sleep on the couch. I suggested that he leave and that I need time to myself. He won't leave and I don't feel that I should have to.

Now he's sort of doing nice stuff for me... like going for walks with me and stuff (he used to not want to have anything to do with that).

I'm so confused. I love him, but now I feel like I have a roommate that is dating someone else. Its the weirdest most difficult thing I've ever been through.

Help! I need some advice. Is our 10 years of marriage really over?View Thread

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Hey lelila02!

I just read an e-mail from the staff here concerning 2 couples coping boards/exchanges. They think it may be...

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Coping with Stress

Marriage is hard enough when two people, with two different backgrounds, personalities, ideas, needs, etc are...

Posted by lelila02

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I just wanted a clean place to post. I hope this was a good place to start.

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