My boyfriend of two and a half years and I decided recently that it was best if we ended things. We both agreed we still love each other and that we mean everything to each other. He told me that the past two and half years have been incredible and he wouldn't take them back for anything he is just lost right now.
I know he has been struggling with depression. He had a difficult childhood. His mom isn't really there for him. And his father passed away a month after we started dating. His parents were divorced when he was 13 and his mother kept him from his father.
We went through a similar situation with me a year and a half ago. I was going through major depression. When I was 18 I became estranged from my mother and stepfather. My mother had also kept me from my father. My boyfriend stayed with me through it even thought I tried to push him away. And we came out of it stronger than ever.
Part of me feels like this could be the same situation. And everyone handles things differently. So I feel maybe he just needs to handle his depression himself unlike me who chose to handle it while being with him.
I still don't feel like this is the end for us, but I also don't want to have hope and it never happens. I know that talking to a therapist/etc. doesn't help everyone. It helped me. He said it didn't help him when he went years ago.
Has anyone gone through a similar situation? And how did it turn out?
I never believed before that when you knew someone was the one, you just knew. But when he got me through everything I was facing, I just knew he was the one. I still feel like he is the guy that I am meant to spend the rest of my life with. He just needs to find himself. And I believe in him that he will. After all, he saw me get through the very same thing.
I probably sound like a fool in love. But ever since I became a believer of "when you know, you know" there is just something telling me that this is yet another test our relationship must face even though we are apart and living separately right now.
Can anyone give me any advice or had a similar experience?View Thread
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