I am fortunate in that I'm self-employed; but no---employers should not have access. What goes on outside of work has no bearing on what goes on at the job.
In my own opinion, having access would breed discrimination as to who was hired for a particular job. I chose self employment for that very reason, as I have a chronic illness. I don't have to worry about getting fired if I miss a day here and there due to health issues, because my "boss" already understands. I feel bad for those that don't have that option.
It is tough enough to find work already. There is no sense in employers making it even tougher.View Thread
If I could afford to buy health insurance I would've gotten it already. I don't have the financial capability at this point if I want to keep eating. Forcing people to pay a fine if they're not insured makes no sense at all. Doesn't the government investigate why people don't have it in the first place?View Thread
I've kept a Gratitude Journal since May of 1996. I was homeless at the time I began it; and the things I was grateful for in that first entry were my two blankets, a sunny parking spot (I lived in my car), a bottle of water and a can of Spaghetti-Os. That entry still makes me smile, because it was the beginning of an active practice of seeing the daily joys in my life.
The best thing I ever learned came after I was dxed with Fibromyalgia in November of 2010. I was scared and overwhelmed, and I felt like my life was over. A very wise friend sat down with me several days later, and she said, "This may be life disrupting but it isn't life threatening." It was an important distinction for me, and it has become my mantra during the challenging times. My life is better because of them.View Thread
You said this so well...I have a friend who learned that the hard way not to swear in front of her kids. The family had a pot-bellied pig for a pet, and he would sometimes pee in the house. I was over for dinner one night, and the pig had peed on the floor; and the 2-year-old looked down from her high chair and said, "F***ing pig." My friend nearly fainted, because thought the kids weren't paying attention. She never swore around them again.
I have found that the fastest way to "train" a child to use "forbidden" words is to overreact when he says them. I've seen this more than once. The child says a bad word, and mom totally freaks; so he keeps saying it to get that reaction. It makes mom pay attention, and that's what he's looking for.
Thank you for your comments...I will be using them with my nephew soon. He has just turned two, and his dad is a total potty mouth.View Thread