I agree that the obesity issue in this country is complex and has "no simple answers"...
At the same time, I also believe that the strength of America hinges on the health of Americans. The US use to be a world power because, at one time, Americans were the healthiest people on earth. That is clearly no longer true, now. American corporations are less competitive and, therefore, less profitable since Obesity and Type 2 Diabetes compromises productivity of the American worker.
Most every American acknowledges we must eat more fruits and vegetables and exercise, daily...
But, does every American acknowledge that spiraling health costs have cost this country millions of jobs and is crippling our hopes for economic recovery, now, and in the future? Does every American realize how our own individual health can effect financial markets, retailing, real estate and the quality of our education system? Does every American understand how Obesity affects child birth, cognitive development, allergies and breathing disorders that can impair a child's performance in the classroom?
So, if there's "no simple answers" that can resolve Obesity, kawaiikami, what, now? Do we just get fatter, more unhealthy and allow our dollars to continue to dwindle in value? Shall I sell everything I have and put all my money in gold?View Thread
I read this astounding letter Friday night and proceeded to spend the next few days thinking about its contents, over and over, again...
Thank you for your generosity and kindness. It is one of the most powerful and inspiring posts I've ever read...here, or anywhere else for that matter. Per your request, I've printed this letter and will present this to my nephew, this evening.
A few thoughts about what you wrote...
1. "Does All These People Really Have ADHD?" That's the wrong question, imo. It should be, "Who doesn't have ADHD?"
Just like cancer, diabetes, obesity, COPD, osteoarthritis, and cardiovascular disease, ADHD must be measured on a "spectrum"...ie, a "road" we all travel.
I say this because I think anyone whose read your letter probably felt some degree of uneasiness. I'm certain there are experiences and observations you shared that we've all felt or experienced, too.
"Why is Autism, ADHD and other cognitive impairments so hard to diagnose?"
EZ. Its cuz everyone has "it"...
2. The stress of joblessness is tough but particularly hard for young adults with ADHD like my nephew. If he gets on a prolonged roll of rejection and failure, he'll drift beyond everyone's reach, not just mine. I think the best help I can give my nephew, now, is direction. He could really use a specific vocation, a professional skill that will allow him to earn a living while he works with health professionals that can help him improve. I need to encourage him to find a specific job that he can and would like to do and, then, kick him in the ass once per week until he gets it. I think I need to apply calm and steady pressure, now.
3. Just something to consider...This is about your use of the term "moron".
I think this is prototypical ADHD "lingo".
I should know...I use it, too.
I agree with you, forghorn. The most effective treatment for ADHD (for any disease, actually) is to "let people into our life". But, if that's true, how do such words like egghead, moron, idiot, imbecile fit with embracing and accepting others? Referring to others as morons only highlights and cements differences between us and "them". As my wife (a behavioral therapist) likes to say, "Moron?...You wish you could be so lucky."
As much as I hate to admit it, I know she's right...
4. For what its worth, you and I have two completely different perspectives of what "garbage" is. Where I live, "garbage" don't care, they don't help, and they don't want change. And, they sure as hell don't write letters like this! Thank you for all your help, foghorn, and good luck to you!View Thread
Couple of comments about my nephew's problems that might be of relevance to others with ADHD. First, is his lack of sleep. He is sleep deprived which only exacerbates his already erratic behavior. It is not uncommon to see him during the day, unshaven and blurry eyed, like an addict (which he's not). He lost a part-time job, recently, when he gave his boss one-too-many excuses why he couldn't make it in. Quite frankly, I'm amazed he lasted as long as he did.
Second, his shtty diet... Luckily, he was an all city point foward in high school and continues to play pickup games where he can find them. If it wasn't for that, he'd weigh a gazillion.
I feel badly for him and badly for his parents who are gone. People think he's selfish (not), egotistical (not) and a total liar (emphatic, yes). He'll tell me he'll check his email or call me later...I don't hold my breath; he never follows thru.
People think his parents didn't care and didn't get him the help he needed. They cared like crazy and didn't get him the help he needed...obviously.
I'm not his parents. He's told me that enough times, already. I know structure and routine is the key for my nephew. Unfortunately, he's locked the door and thrown that key, away.
The damn guy scored 1280 on his SATs...what a freakin' waste!
PS: You are wrong, foghorn.I absolutely did not ask the wrong guy.Thank you. PSS: Thank you, haylen. Thank you, olivia.View Thread