OK..this is the answer you all have been waiting for... I am 54, I hhave 5 step kids 13 step grandkids and 1 child and 2 grandchildren. When you become a parent you SHOULD stop worring about me, me ,me and become focused on what is good for the kids... meaning another person to love your child is a good thing.. right?? or are you so selfish that you want to hog them???? I call all my kids mine, we never allowed the word step into our home. The grandbabies are all mine too and the more love there is the more that grows from it. it's all a state of mind. not to say all was perfect we had trials and duct tape was discussed as a method to silence the teenage mouth, but we worked hard to raise the kids and they have all done well it was hard but we are commited to them as children "our" children.View Thread