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I was watching the NFL draft with my hubby last night, and he turned to me and said, "You know, if these kids would immediately invest a quarter of their enormous starting salaries they could get injured within the first few years of their career, never have to work again and still live better than the rest of us."
And, let's not forget the money that is poured into college athletic programs, football in particular. Our local university pays NO property taxes, so our gas tax here and homeowners' property taxes are insane. The university is getting ready to cut staff, hack off a degree program that is one of the most lucrative for graduates, and is raising per-credit-hour tuition costs exponentially. Fewer and fewer kids can even afford to attend this STATE institution unless they are either rich kids are scholarship students. BUT, literally billions of dollars are rained down on the football team and no one blinks an eye. Something is dreadfully wrong.
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Spring cleaning at our house starts in the garage. We seem to collect all sorts of interesting things in there over the year. I blame my husband. hehe
We always save our bedroom for last. It seems to be the catch-all for everything else, so as we're cleaning we move questionable things in there and it is the final toss-out decision space.
I love the feeling of freshness after spring cleaning. It feels like a weight has been lifted.
I HATE trying to get the whole family motivated to work together. I always seem to be dragging someone back into the fray.
I voted myself Neat Freak in the poll, even though my kids call me OCD. I like things in their place, but I have learned over the years to chill out and let some things go. With 5 people living in a house you'll drive yourself nuts if you try to keep everything always in place.
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I think for the most part whether a doc is earning what he or she deserves kind of depends on how good they are at what they do.
Docs that have great rapport with their patients and show they TRULY care are top of my list.
When I was pregnant with my first daughter, I interviewed pediatricians in my area and choose a guy that I really liked. He was young and had young kids himself. Great personality. But, I knew I had made the right choice when he came to visit me the day after my daughter was born to check her out and talk to me about what to expect with her.
My husband's uncle had brought me a pair of slippers shaped like cows when he came to visit. They were parked under the edge of my hospital bed. When Dr. A came in to see me, he spied those cow slippers, took off his loafers, put the cows on and did the rest of his rounds in my slippers.

He came back about an hour later to drop them back off and pick up his shoes. I got the biggest kick out of it!
He also never rushed our visits with the kids, spending as much time as possible and not only talking to ME but to the kids as well. Priceless.
I wish everyone could have such a caring pediatrician.
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She would take every opportunity to talk to me and my siblings about being truthful, and it was one of the first lessons I wanted to instill in my own kids.
The next best thing I learned from my mom was a great work ethic. We had chores from the time we were old enough to take responsibility, and my mom was strict about them being done every day. There was no fun until chores were done. I believe that it taught me to be a responsible person.
I love reading the stories about all of your moms! So inspiring.
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As for keeping the sheet in the first place, it seems a little arrogant, but maybe he's the type of person who has to organize things like that. If he told me he was sorting his dates that way, I'd know for certain he wasn't the one for ME. I like organization, but that seems a little over the top.
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I've always heard that if you drop down too low in calories suddenly in order to lose weight that your body goes into starvation mode and stores up any fat it gets after that. Ungood.
Just say no to the quick fix, no matter how tempting.
Slow and steady wins the race and comes out healthy.

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I do believe I am nice most of the time. But, I have become less tolerant of stupidity as I have gotten older.
I am also guilty of losing my temper with other drivers. Cell phones are a pet peeve, as are drivers who seem to believe they are somehow entitled to cut in front of everyone or come from another direction and take a parking place I have been sitting patiently waiting for someone else to vacate. GRRRRR
Aside from that, I am a rather empathetic person. I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt in most instances. I like to help others out when I have time to lend a hand. It makes me feel really good inside to know I am making a difference somewhere.
My nice genes definitely come from my mother, but I didn't inherit nearly as many as she has. She is a truly tolerant and kind person.
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GREAT posts!
My daughter was also bullied in 4th grade. It was by a girl who was larger than the other girls in the class, and she picked on several of the smaller girls, though not so much the boys.
A few of the parents, including me, got together and approached the school administration about it, but they wouldn't do anything. They said no one had "observed" this girl bullying the others. My daughter had indicated that she and her friends had already told their teacher and that the teacher had observed the incidents and basically turned her back on several occasions. Our words went on deaf ears. Nothing was done. (Personally, I think the teacher was afraid of the girl.)
Finally, I asked my daughter if this girl seemed to have any friends. She said, "No, everyone avoids her." I suggested that she might want to approach the girl herself and just talk to her and keep talking to her like a friend if she could.
At first, the bullying girl would walk away when my daughter tried to strike up a conversation with her, but eventually she eased into it. The other kids started asking her to join in their games, etc. I won't say they stayed fast friends, but she didn't bully my daughter anymore and eased up quite a bit on the other girls, too. Sounded like she was an isolated girl who felt different from her peers and was just getting attention in a very negative way. Unfortunately, after encountering her overbearing and rude mother at a school function, I saw that the apple didn't fall far from the tree.
I definitely think we need to talk to our kids and arm them with the best strategies to deal with bully situations.
And, we need to encourage our kids to TALK to us. If your child is afraid that you'll be upset if she talks to you, then she won't do it. Be approachable and don't freak out if you hear something you don't want to hear. You can't help if you don't know.
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Social media has made it easier to pick on someone without having to even look them in the face. Kids can be crueler, because they don't see the immediate result of their actions. It's almost like a game.
Is it an epidemic? Only if we don't start doing something about it. Are we making too much of the problem? No, we need to start highlighting this bad behavior and call the bullies out. And, we need to teach our children the consequences of their actions.
I'm definitely taking my 14-year-old to see this movie if it comes to a theatre in my area.
I'd also like to see our school officials stop pussyfooting around this problem and start expelling these kids for continued bully behavior. If parents have to start missing work and staying home with their little bully, then they might start acknowledging there is a problem instead of insisting their little "angel" would NEVER be that mean.
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My husband and I have always kept an open dialog about sex with our kids, so perhaps ours didn't need it so badly. However, they would come home and tell me what some of their friends were doing and saying, and it would make me cringe. Even in this day and age, parents are STILL not giving their kids the information they need to make good choices. I don't necessarily think it is the job of our educational system to do that, but I think it would be great if kids could have a sex education course in both middle school and high school, teaching age-appropriate basic information about sexually-transmiteed diseases and both abstinence AND contraception.
Thinking that teenagers are not going to have sex if we tell them its a bad idea is just stupid. Hormones are raging. Stuff happens.
Just my two cents.
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