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I'm back, I'm here. How are you all. I wanted to check in. I had a very nice long weekend. Busy, but...

Chrissy~

When the world says, Give up,
Hope whispers, Try it one more time.
~Author Unknown

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FREE/LOW-COST MEDICAL CARE, INCLUDING COUNSELING -...

hello, all -- here is a list of resources for finding free/low-cost medical care, including counseling...

what good is gold, or silver too, if your heart's not good and true -- hank williams, sr.

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Reply: Not Good

Sad to say, back at this point just now, I am hoping it is just because I am so tired, I did have a nap today, it...

People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily....... Zig Ziglar

Posted by Chez1

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Reply: I cant take it

hello, H -- i agree with C. you need to use your energy to be how you want to be, not how you think...

what good is gold, or silver too, if your heart's not good and true -- hank williams, sr.

Posted by susiemargaret

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Reply: jaws86

hello, jimmy -- no, no, i don't think you post too much, i just thought you had decided that you...

what good is gold, or silver too, if your heart's not good and true -- hank williams, sr.

Posted by susiemargaret

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Reply: jaws86

hello, jimmy -- i said this in another thread too, but what the heck -- nobody ever said that we...

what good is gold, or silver too, if your heart's not good and true -- hank williams, sr.

Posted by susiemargaret

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Abilify and insomnia

My doctor started me on Abilify a couple months ago as an adjunct to Prozac, and I like what it does for...

Posted by 100indecisions

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Reply: History jaws86

hello, jimmy -- yes, click on the orange "post now" button at the top or bottom right, then choose...

what good is gold, or silver too, if your heart's not good and true -- hank williams, sr.

Posted by susiemargaret

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Reply: jaws86

hello, jimmy -- yay for no surgery! how thoughtless of them to not have the specialist read your CT...

what good is gold, or silver too, if your heart's not good and true -- hank williams, sr.

Posted by susiemargaret

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Reply: Today is a new day

write when you can, please please take care xx sending the strength i have with the hugs chez xx ps i will keep...

People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily....... Zig Ziglar

Posted by Chez1

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Reply: Trigger - Feeling out of control - need to restric...

Please tell me how you are doing today xx

People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily....... Zig Ziglar

Posted by Chez1

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Reply: How do I get my husband to understand what I'm goi...

I do see your point. I know that many have said if it that was easy to snap out of it I would but I can't....

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Everyday is a battle and I feel like I'm alone

When my husband and I got married almost 3 years ago we suffered a major setback. I had a...

Posted by FluttershyIsBestPony

When my husband and I got married almost 3 years ago we suffered a major setback. I had a miscarriage and nearly died. Then a year later I was medically discharged from the military. It seemed at that point that every major issue we had was going to be because of me, but my husband took my hand, wiped away the tears, and told me how it would all be okay.
December of 2010 came, just a few short weeks before he was set to deploy. My husband started to behave erratically, but we chalked it up to the nerves of a first deployment, until one night I woke up to him crying and telling me I should leave him. The next day I had him make an appointment with mental health. That's when the diagnosis's started to coming down. Depression. Anxiety. Insomnia. Psychosis Not Otherwise Specified.
I asked him what I could do to help, the only thing he wanted was for me to treat him the same. All the medication he was on seemed to be working, so I did as he asked and treated him like he was normal. Then one night he went outside with the dog and came back in with his arm sliced open and an empty bottle of sleeping pills in his hand.
I spent the week he was in the hospital obsessing over what I did to cause this. Maybe the house wasn't clean enough, or I wasn't loving enough, whatever it was I was determined that it was my fault and I wasn't going to let it happen again.
After that I became more involved in his treatment. He suffered memory loss from his overdose, so I took over reminding him when he had appointments, to take his pills, where he left his wallet, when was the last time he changed his contacts. I go on walks with him, sometimes at 3 a.m. to help ease his panic attacks. I completely took over the housework so he would have one less thing to worry about. I became so wrapped up in making him as happy and safe as possible that I failed out of college.
In addition to his depression, my husband is also a narcissist. His failures and mistakes became my fault. His want's took priority over mine. When we made plans for the weekend he would suddenly change his mind, or become sick, or throw out his back. At first I just swallowed my hurt because I thought 'depression can make you sick, it can make you hurt,' but then the new pills started to work. For almost a year things got better, and while he wasn't 100%, he was my husband again.
But now he has begun to change again. When he comes home from work all he can talk about is how terrible his day was, how everyone he works with are lazy and stupid. He has begun to joke about suicide, stopped taking his pills, started drinking alot, and lashing out at me (not physically). He says he is just stressed because he is waiting on his discharge paperwork, but I'm scared.
I've started to stay awake while he is sleeping to make sure he doesn't try anything, only napping while he works. I've also informed his psychiatrist and his therapist of his change in behavior, but this nagging feeling in my gut just won't go away. I'm exhausted, I'm drained, I'm feeling resentful, and hating myself for feeling this way. I'm only 23, but I feel like I'm 90. I just want to know that I'm not the only one going through this.View Thread

Posted by FluttershyIsBestPony

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Reply: marriage

Not to worry, My typing isn't that great. It's really hard to say how to tell if someone "really" love's...

Posted by Demons2011

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Reply: *Using Trigger*

hello, A -- think about when you are in your most emotionally vulnerable state. what topics do you not...

what good is gold, or silver too, if your heart's not good and true -- hank williams, sr.

Posted by susiemargaret

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Reply: exhausted

my husband is not smart enough to not say anything....he does expect me to snap out of it, I wish he could...

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Reply: RLS and Depression

-- bump --

what good is gold, or silver too, if your heart's not good and true -- hank williams, sr.

Posted by susiemargaret

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Reply: Venting

Yeah I think if it weren't for family, children, and friends it would be very easy to just take the easy...

Posted by alaska_mommy

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Reply: um i could really use some help and input please

Gosh I am so sorry you're going through this right now. I'm glad your friend found you before you were...

Posted by alaska_mommy

Gosh I am so sorry you're going through this right now. I'm glad your friend found you before you were able to finish the job of hanging yourself.
Depression is soooo hard to deal with. Do you have to wait the full 27 days to see a counselor? I wonder if you could find someone else to get in to see in the meantime? Also I would see about talking to your regular doctor and see if it might be a good idea to get on some antidepressants. They take several weeks to kick in, which majorly sucks, but if they land on the right one it can really help.
Sometimes it helps to vent/talk about what's going on, to work through all the negative feelings that brought you to where you are today. I'm not surprised you're in such a bad way after so many bad things happening all at once. Your world has been turned upside down.
As far as exercises, it does help sometimes to get out in the sunshine and get fresh air, to work your muscles and get your heart rate up, on a regular basis. If you're able to, get outside or get to a gym every day. It at least gives you a temporary good feeling from the endorphins released when you exercise.
Anything else that you enjoy doing, try to do those things, and stay in contact with someone who knows your situation so you have someone to talk to if you have any further thoughts of harming yourself. You know there are lots of crisis numbers you can call if you ever feel that way, right?

Personally I'm doing a combination of psychotherapy and medication. It's not working 100% for me, but it is helping, I think. For you it may just take time to grieve the passing of your brother and friend and the loss of your dad in your life. Depression is part of the grieving process. But at the same time you don't have to just accept it as "this is how it has to be". Get help, reach out and ask for what you need. Good luck!View Thread

Posted by alaska_mommy

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Reply: Home from the doctor...

I have no choice but to wait to see what happens with the meds, but my husbands negative comments dont help....

Posted by Hawtmom

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jaws86

What happened to my post I was writing?

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Reply: 1 AM

Woo Hoo! So glad to hear it. Here's hoping it continues.

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Reply: Chez, talk to me

Thank you Caprice, trying for a new plan! Chezx

People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily....... Zig Ziglar

Posted by Chez1

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Reply: Weaning off of Viibryd

Hi there, welcome to the site. I don't have the same experience as you are having but from reading your post, I...

People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily....... Zig Ziglar

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Reply: Dwelling

No I have not seen a psychiatrist for meds. I have talked to my doctor and she said I dont need meds, I need...

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Reply: Venting--Sad turning to anger

Hey Monie, I have been on a short time and been welcomed here. There are many people here who are very...

Posted by Demons2011

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Reply: Wondering What I Was Experincing

Hi BH, Glad you're feeling better and hope that anxiety or whatever it is doesn't return anytime soon. I am...

Posted by MyRain

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Reply: I feel like giving up

He just doesnt get it and I dont know if he wants to. He sees life from one point of view and thinks thats all...

Posted by Hawtmom

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Reply: jaws86

Hi J, that is good news, yes? I don't know what time it is with you, it is after midnight here. If you can, go...

People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily....... Zig Ziglar

Posted by Chez1

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Reply: Depression due to stress

I would suggest asking you primary doctor for a referral or look online, when I was looking I found a website...

Posted by Hawtmom

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