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Reply: living with a depressed husband

I know it is tough but hang in there and focus on what is good. In spirit with you!

Posted by aseth

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Reply: living with a depressed husband

Dear Tazdavid, In a way reading what you have written has scared me further. In my country...

Posted by aseth

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Reply: living with a depressed husband

Hi to all of you. I am living in a very difficult situation. I am married and have known from...

Posted by aseth

Hi to all of you. I am living in a very difficult situation. I am married and have known from the very begining that my husband had suffered from depression. For some foolish reason I thought that I would be able to deal with it. But immediately after our marriage he slipped into depression. I had no idea if I was coming or going, where I stood in that relatioship, if I should quit as it seemed I was not good enough for him. I did not meet his standards. This was suprising as I came from a better family background and had a solid education to back me. Things came to a head when a year and a half after our marriage we discovered that he had a brain tumour. I was pregnant with our first child. We went through the surgary and tratment together. Soon we had our son. Then he slipped into a more depressive state. His surgeon told me that this could be not only becuase of his past history of depression but also a result of the surgery. We sort of resolved differences and carried on. For the sake of my son I gave in at various points to his demands and wishes. But all along, things were moving from one area of conflict to the next. People told me that was what marriage was. I saw my peers and family go through the same kind of martial bliss, so assumed it was normal. Slowly I found that I was loosing myself, in a bing to keep my identity I started doing somethings that I liked, these had to be done without him as he had no taste for these things. We started to grow a little apart. I beleived we both needed this space and time to oursleves. But the further I would go the more my husband would try to pull me back and the more force he would apply everytime. Recently things took a downward spin. Amongst other beliefs, like I am doing well in my career, I am smarter, etc he also beleives that I have been unfaithful. I have cheated. But I know this is not true. In my 12 years of marriage I have never been unfaithful, even in thought. Despite all my attempts to convince him, which includes counselling, I am not able to. I believe the source is in his depression but the daily allegations of distrust are making me wonderr what I did wrong. I am truly miserable. If it was not for my son, I would leave him. To me we have hit rock bottom. Can someone give me good advice?View Thread

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