I agre with the other poster. Your symptoms sound pretty typical to me. What symptoms do you see other people having, that you don't? Many times people get the idea that when you have depression, you are sad all the time. But a lot of it can also come out as apathy.View Thread
I'd like to offer one small thing to both of you... this is something I'm still trying to internalize as well. A lot of personal pain and agony is caused by taking responsibility for other people's feelings, by making their feelings more important than your own, or by believing that you are worth less than others.
You as a human being have just as much inherent worth as anyone else. So when someone else starts crying because you feel bad, and you stop crying because you don't want them to feel bad, it's saying their feelings are more important than yours. Keep in mind, I TOTALLY understand the response. I've done it too. It's still what your innermost self is saying. A good place to start is to begin telling yourself that you are beautiful inside. Say it till you believe it... and I hope you both keep coming back. You are welcome here!View Thread
It's good to have you here. This is a good place to reach out, because there are a lot of people who will understand. I think writing is a good way to keep busy if you don't have anyone to talk to. It helps you vent in a safe direction and helps you put your thoughts in order. There's something calming about it too.View Thread
Some people swear by meditation. Just plain deep breathing can help too. Shifting your view point so you start looking for opportunities instead of obstacles, that can help. Recognizing the areas where you actually have control, where you didn't think you did, can help you reduce stress.
Green tea helps you calm down, too. Warm soup or other warm liquids helps the body feel more relaxed. Exercise reduces stress. Music of the right kind (something you enjoy that isn't too fast paced) helps. Getting enough sleep helps.
Reducing stressors in your life, where possible, helps. Scheduling a little "you time" helps. Writing about what is stressing you out can help.
Lots of ways to reduce stress! I hope this helps you in some way.View Thread
First of all, there is nothing odd or unnatural about being a people pleaer or caring about what others think. It's a natural enough part of life, considering that humans are social beings and many of us are just wired that way. So there's nothing really wrong with you there.
That said, you always want to make sure that you don't care so much about what other people think that you forget to care about yourself. You need to keep in mind that you are just as important as everyone else and therefore you should take what other people do and say with a grain of salt. That's one of the hardest things to do, for me.
You are absolutely right, writing things out helps a lot. It clarifies thoughts and also helps you vent. This community can be great for that!View Thread
The thing is, he's already exploring options with counseling. He came here for advice from peers or people who've been there.
To the OP, I can understand your frustration. We get such a glamorized view of college and all the opportunities. To top it off, we also have a lot of really shallow, self centered people going there who are still figuring themselves out, but unfortunately think it's perfectly okay to be curel to others.
If you see a girl you like, it might help to remember that she may be as worried as you are. Maybe seek out the girls who are shy? Pick ones who like what you like. Find yourself a nice geek girl! I'll tell you a secret. The smarter girls are often shy. And they may be more unconventionally beautiful, but they will often understand more about what it feels like to be hurt and betrayed, so they won't be as likely to be nasty. As the old saying goes, and there is some truth to this, "all jocks think about is sports. All geeks think about is sex." So some of these less flashy girls may end up being surprisingly creative and give you a really fun time. At the very least, they'll be able to carry on a good conversation.
Well, we can offer support here and provide a safe place to talk and vent. There are in person support groups too. Sorry this response was so short but I didn't want to neglect welcoming you.View Thread
It sounds like you have a lot to deal with right now. Depression is entirely understandable and I can see why the meds don't work. It sounds like if your situation got better, your depression would get better. So there's nothing wrong with you, yourself. You are having a natural reaction to a tough situation.
The thing to do now is try to figure a way out of the situation you are in, and I know you are doing that. Your mom meant a lot to you, on a lot of levels, and I sympathise with your loss. Is there a way you could help your father understand about your disability? Perhaps share articles with him, or talk to him about it? Maybe then you can talk together about what would be best to help you be happy?View Thread