Thanks for contributing. I've just rediscovered the antidepressant power of moderate exercise as well. There's just something that gets the blood pumping. And one more thing that might sound counterintuitive.... a really, really good cry. It flushes out the stress toxins in the body and clears the mind.View Thread
Thank you for responding, and for your kind words about my portfolio. It means a lot!
If I could tell you one thing, it would be this, with utmost respect for you and for your feelings: Quit judging. Don't judge yourself, your problems, your feelings, or other people. I by no means wish to be harsh here, and this is a lesson I'm trying to learn myself, so I understand.
When a person judges themselves, they often beat up on themselves for things they have done. When they judge their own pain, writing it off as "first world problems" perhaps, they invalidate their own feelings. That causes some part of them to dig even farther into the depression, because the pain is still there. What's the solution? Acceptance and forgiveness. If you accept, it doesn't mean you approve of the situation, but it gives you a solid foundation to work from.
One of the hardest things I have had to learn to do (and I'm still bad at it) is to say "that happened. I did that. TI forgive myself for doing that, because I can't continue to abuse myself. I learned from it though, and this is what I am going to do, from now, moving forward."
I hope this made some sense. Once again, thank you for continuing to share!View Thread
Feel free to vent, you are welcome to do that here. As long as you let us know that's what's going on, we're happy to listen!
Don't worry if your situation seems trivial. Pain is pain, and if a person is already having a really rough time of it, even losing half a sandwich can make them cry. It's all relative. The volume is a little low on this board so responses may be delayed, but you are definitely welcome.View Thread
Welcome to the group! You can get started however you like. Start a discussion if you want, or make a longer intro post. If you want, you can put also some information about yourself in your profile, it won't be visible to other communities, just this one. You would do that by clicking "my community profile" in the blue links to the left. I'm glad to see you here!View Thread
Reading these posts is a good start, and there is a whole list of tips over on the right, entitled "ways to help depression." I hope this helps. Also, I suppose your last option might help if it relieves abdominal pressure or makes you laugh!View Thread
Sounds like you've really got a lot going on! How about that husband of yours helping out? Have you tried just saying "Honey, I'm working two jobs here. I'm busting my ass. The holidays are coming but I feel so stressed out right now, I could really use your help. Could you do (x) for me? It would really help me feel better." Then if he does it, thank him sincerely for it. Guys often like to help out and want to feel needed. If he keeps nagging, talk to him about it or get marriage counseling. That's no way to live, but you have to take steps to make it better because no one else is going to do it for you.
It's a hard truth, and I really wish you the best.View Thread
I've seen threads disappear most often when people are being civilized for the most part, but then some really abusive spammer comes on and says something really over the top and nasty for no good reason. This causes the whole thread to be deleted, often before most people see the post that actually broke the rules, so it looks like the relatively polite disagreements were the ones that caused the thread to be deleted. It's a real pain!View Thread
I wonder why she changed her tune? Did she speak that way out of fear, perhaps? Could it have been a misguided attempt to motivate you? Either way, I agree, you don't need support like that. Take her up on her offer to find a therapist. Explain to her that it's a way you will be able to have a better life. And then, be who you are, and no one else, and call her out if she starts comparing you again.