Welcome, it's good to have you here. I think your parents see their behavior as "encouragement." Unfortunately, they may be very difficult to convince that what they are doing is really hurting you and it's completely wrong.
You need encouragement, you need support, and you need people to reflect back what's beautiful about you so you can see it. You have passiosn and interests, they just don't happen to align with what they want. That's really hard to deal with.
I'm not sure what to advise here, except that talking about this and journaling about this is good. Never forget that you are a worthwhile human being, deserving of being treated with dignity and respect. Let your boyfriend help you if he wants to. Part of depression is feeling like a burden.
You aren't a burden. You may want to consider striking out on your own and getting as far away from your parents as you can. I know that can be really hard to do though so only you will know what's best. Please keep coming back, you will find people who understand and support you.
Those are some interesting points you make. I do agree that people shouldn't go around diagnosing others unless they have training. Similarly, I get really tired of people judging others when they don't know the full situation!
I have a friend. People constantly call her lazy and judge her because she's young, and looks healthy, but she walks slowly and sometimes needs a motorized cart in the grocery store. But she has rheumatoid arthritis, which people can't see. So people shouldn't judge unless they know all the facts. Same with depression.
Agreed also that people need to understand that men get depressed too. And everbody's different. It affects people in different ways. I don't think depression is the sole factor that causes someone to do bad things, same as you, but I could see how it could be a contributing factor - especially if the person who is depressed is so unsupported that they don't see a way out.View Thread
Sorry we missed this post, and welcome to the group! I'm sorry you are having a relapse, but that's a great attitude you have. You are absolutely right, you aren't alone. If you want some other possible ideas or tips on helping your depression, here's a thread about it:
I agree with An_262267. Exercise, nutrition, taking things one step at a time, that can help tremendously.
I'd like to add to that, general physical health and taking care of yourself. At your next checkup, have them check your vitamin and mineral levels, your horomone levels, including thyroid. If anything is out of balance you will have a lot harder time being resiliant.
Keeping in touch with other people helps, learning coping skills helps, practicing meditation and self awareness helps too. Paying attention to your purpose can help too. Also, keep in mind that losing a family member can take a long time to really get over. Supporting yourself emotionaly and physically will help you eventually recover.View Thread