Caregivers need support too, you are absolutely right about that. You'll find friendly "ears" here, or at the Friends and Family support community, but you might want to see if you can find a little support at home as well. Even carving out a half hour of "me time" now and again can do wonders. Failing that, some of your favorite musing during your commute, a hot bath, anything that's just for you and only you. You need as much support as anyone else. My spouse has a lot of chronic pain too so I understand how tough it can be.View Thread
Hi, MIchelle! Welcome to the community. I just wanted to say, please don't add to your burden by feeling guilty about talking about your problems. You need to be able to vent too, and pain is relative. Everyone's pain is important, everyone's struggle is imporatant. You reaching out gives someone else the opportunity to reach back.
I can really understand your feelings right now. A love that is lost or in doubt is such a painful thing. Especially with everything else you are going through! You can make it, but don't forget to take care of yourself and take time to mourn if the relationship really is over.View Thread
There is hope. Where once it was belived that the brain never regenerated or developed new connections, now we know that the brain can heal itself to some degree and even route around areas of damage.
I think your solution will be two fold. Continue working on your depression and anxiety, but purposefully do things that test your abilities where they are weak. Think of it as exercise. Your brain WILL begin to develop connections again. Also, look at any areas of worry or stress. Both of those things can actually keep you from using abilities you actualy have. Being aware of this can counteract the effect.
Secondly, look at your nutrition. You wouldn't believe the incredible brain fog I get if my levels of folate are low. Folate, other B vitamins, omega 3 fatty acids all help your brain heal itself and work better. You can get it from whole foods and from supplements. Also, limiting sugar and processed foods helps your brain wirk better.
Good luck to you! Keep at it and you will see improvement.View Thread
Hi there, I'm glad to see you here. The answer to what to talk about is talk about whatever you need to. Maybe start by isolating some part of your feelings that bothers you a lot and work from there. I often find that it's all related. Susie Margaret is giving you really good advice here.View Thread
Oh, not too bad lately, thanks for asking. I've been paying a lot of attention to my nutrition and that does help. I've also been trying to be more positive, because it seriously helps. I've found that the best way to do that is not to say "I've got to be more positive" but rather to get so wrapped up in a project or interest that it follows naturally. Lately work has been better, for example, because I've been thinking more about how much I love helping people, rather than thinking "guh, I have to go to work again."
So that's me. Also, the spouse has solved some very worrisome physical problems and that's nice too. Less worry does wonders.
The only thing I can suggest as far as advice, is don't give up till it's actually hopeless. You were told you won't have your job next year. That means two things. One, you still have it for now. Two, you know ahead of time you you have a chance to make other plans and look for other work in the meantime. This warning is a gift, even though it doesn't seem like it right now, because at least you won't be blindsided with a sudden loss. Till then, look at simplifying and downsizing as much as you can.
I totally understand the emotional component. It can be next to impossible to be positive about anything if you are in emotional and physical pain. Yet, that is the key to survival.View Thread