I can definitly understand where you are coming from. It is very difficult when you are dealing with a bad depression. You have to take it one step at a time. Set small goals for yourself like today I will put away some dishes. This does not mean you have to put away all the dishes in one shot. Take it slowly. Is there anyone in your family that can help you with putting some of the stuff away.
The phone call is an important step. Make that one of your goals one day. It may help give you the push you need to get the process going. You need to see a doc just in case they want to tweek your meds. I have been in a bad depression lately so I understand what it's like to not be able to get out of bed and do the things necessary to take care of my daughter. Hang in there.View Thread
I would definitely try the meds again. Maybe this time, take your husband with you to your appointment so he can as the doctor questions and get reassurance from him/her that its ok to take the meds and they will help you. You would need to see the doctor anyways so he/she can properly diagnose whether it is depression or bipolar disorder since depression does occur in bipolar disorder. The difference is bipolar comes with mania. The other thing to do is talk to your husband about having some time to yourself. Not a ton of time, but something so you can relax a little. You have to have some time for yourself. Even if it is just so you can go work out.View Thread
Sometimes all you can do is take care of yourself. You will not always be in a position to help others. Sometimes that's not possible. The only thing you have to worry about right now is taking care of yourself. You must come first and everyone else second. This may sound selfish, but you cannot care for others if you are not caring for yourself.View Thread
You definitely need a break because you are recovering from major surgery. You don't need the stress that this situation is bringing on. At some point your husband has to take some responsibility for his own recovery. That can't happen if he is not being open and honest with his doctor. If she has no idea that some things are going on with him, how can she properly treat him. Your husband needs to realize that he has a lot more control over his health than he is taking on. Part of me wonders if he is just looking for someone to take care of him, otherwise I don't know what could be going on with him. It is possible that he has a drug problem and that is contributing to his inability to follow directions or retain information. Good luck and make sure you do things to take care of yourself.View Thread
Your husband is right, you put a lot of time in. It sounds like you have some pain issues as well and being able to work that long with the pain is extremely great. You deserve to have some time where you can focus on taking care of yourself. As far as hobbies, I don't really have any either so it's hard to help you with that one. There are some people on the boards who are into crafting though.
Maybe there is a support group you could join where you could meet face-to-face with others and get feedback. Some support groups meet on a weekly basis and this could give you some support for those times when you can't see you doc.View Thread
Does a psychiatrist prescribe your meds? If so he or she should have a diagnosis on file for you. If not, asking your primary doctor for a referral to a psychiatrist would help. All I can say is it sounds like you do have bouts of depression as you have said. Your counselor could very well be right as she would have the experience of working with mental illness.
As far as being worried about a label, don't be. A label could be a positive thing for you because you don't have to worry about what illness you have. You can focus on treating the symptoms and learning how to manage it. It is something that you learn to live with and don't let it control your life. That's not all you are.View Thread
We all know that medication alone can't cure depression or other mental illnesses. A combination of therapy and medication will have the best results. There are different therapies out there to try. It sounds like there is a lot of processing that needs to be done. Continuing to do this will eventually lead to you feeling better, but your heart has to be in it. Good luck with your hearing, I hope everything works out for you.View Thread
I haven't had a panic attack quite that bad so I don't know what that feels like, but I have had pretty bad panic attacks. What helps for me is being able to lay down and relax, maybe try to take a nap because I usually feel pretty wiped out afterwards.
Try to take it easy for a while after a panic attack. That can help you feel better.View Thread
I can see you have been to a doctor so that's good. When was the last time you saw a doctor? Has it been recently? If not, I would try to see a doctor because you need to be able to sleep at night. Lack of sleep will only make things such as irritibility worse.
The other thing I wonder is are you currently on medications and if so when was the last time they were adjusted?
I can understand your position because I am also a single parent, work part time and go to school full time. It is a challange and you need to be able to rest whenever possible so you can focus on the tasks you need to complete.View Thread
I used to take Effexor and I also know people who take it. It is normal, in my opinion, to have withdrawal symptoms if you miss doses of this medication. That had happened to me several times. Just don't be in too much of a rush to get off of the effexor. If the time frame is too short, don't be afraid to tell your doctor that you need more time to get off of the medication. I didn't have any problems tapering off of Effexor so hopefully you won't either. Don't be surprised if you do have problems because everyone reacts differently to medications.View Thread