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Joined: 07/27/2012

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I am a 60 year old woman who had a major stroke several years ago. My major disabiltity from it is 24/7 migraines which can get severe, especially if I do much in a day. But I know a lot about treatments for them which I want to share with people. I also have right sided weakness, leg pain, difficulty swallowing, kidney failure, high blood pressure, hate to eat and no appetite from the stroke. I also have fibromyalgia, sleep apnea, acid reflux, asthma, myoclonus, osteoporosis, bletharitis, depression, rosecea, high cholesterol and hypothryoid. Did I forget anything--LOL. Married with no children.

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Reply: Lost and don't know where to turn

Sorry to hear about your situation. Women do have problems putting everyone before...

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Sorry to hear about your situation. Women do have problems putting everyone before themselves. You're not alone with this one.
You do need to take care of yourself or you will be of no help to anyone, plus a big drain on your husband. He has stood by you against his family. That says a lot for him, don't you think? You should celebrate his devotion to you rather than "not being the same since". Your husband has no control over what his mother says, but he took control by choosing you. You don't say what health problems you have, unless it is your depression. That means that you need to set boundaries on what you do.

Men typically don't express feelings very easily as women do. But he has certainly made his feelings known about his job. What more do you want from him? His feelings are very painful and he has told you about them. Why do you say that him talking about quitting his job means financial trouble rubs off on you? Is that because you want to quit your job? Then you can tell him that, since he has said pretty much the same thing to you. Now are you sharing your feelings with him?

It sounds like you got burned out helping your brother way too much. But that is now done with and you feel good about doing it. You don't say why your brother can't work or drive or help his parents who he is living with. That would help things.

I think that you need to set boundaries on your obligations to your parents and brother. Perhaps you could go visit them just one day a week. Did you say it was an hour drive? Then take 4 to 5 hours out of your day to visit them 2 or 3 hours. Or make it once every 2 weeks or whatever you are comfortable with. Unless you have no feeling for your parents, they aren't going to live forever and you will probably feel terrible if you don't go to visit them at all. But that should still give you time for yourself.

Let me know where I am wrong on your situation, because I may be way off. Really let me know. I do feel for you and you do have options to help yourself. You take care. SaraView Thread

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Reply: Father diagnosed with depression. Family thinks i...

Prednisone is for allergic reactions and skin conditions among other things. A maximum dose...

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Reply: Is suicide a sin?

I don't know that anyone knows for sure, unless they have been dead. BUT, the bigger...

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Reply: Depression

Can you get some counseling to help you through a very difficult time with the deaths in...

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Reply: i want to die

It can be hard to make friends. One of the best ways is to either meet people at work,...

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Reply: I am very depressed but with every med. I suffer f...

Well, you certainly are getting a lot of exercise. Is it too much? There is a balance...

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Reply: Do these meds contribute to weight gain

You don't say what meds you are taking or how much overweight you are. What size are you?...

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Can you get some counseling to help you through a very difficult time? Also it sounds like...

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Reply: I'm over it

If your meds didn't help you, then they need to be increased, or you need to try meds in a...

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Reply: living with a depressed husband

I don't know why you stay with a man who is no doubt harming the children with his anger...

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