Hi, I'm wondering how you are doing after your boyfriend left. When he told you that "it wasn't enough" meant that his depression overrides anything that you can give to him. If you had ever experienced real depression, you would understand what he meant. If you couldn't get him to get help with counseling and medication, then you can't help him. He was expressing doubts about your relationship from months ago according to your first posting. I would move on and find someone who is not thinking about killing himself. If you understood better about depression, which it is probably impossible if you haven't experienced it, then you would understand that there isn't anything that you can do to take away his depression. I know from being severely depressed in my past. I wish you the best.View Thread
I was depressed for 25 years and then was helped by light treatment even though I was depressed year round. It took at full month to finally take effect. Then when I hit menopause the light didn't work, but a newer anti-depressant helped. Then through severe life circumstances, I was practically suicidal. I was absolutely amazed that just increasing the anti-depressant completely took away my depression.
Keep trying any new anti-depressants as well as combinations of medications. I hope that you have seen a good psychiatrist, instead of just a regular doctor. And what about ECT? It's not the nightmare that it used to be. Wouldn't it be worth it to have a happier life? Only you can answer that after looking into it. I sincerely wish you the best. Being depressed is not a good way to live. View Thread
I would not give up trying. Keep trying any new anti-depressants as well as combinations of medications. I hope that you have seen a good psychiatrist, instead of just a regular doctor. I was depressed for 25 years and then was helped by light treatment even though I was depressed year round. It took at full month to finally take effect. And what about ECT? It's not the nightmare that it used to be. Wouldn't it be worth it to have a happier life? Only you can answer that after looking into it. I sincerely wish you the best. Being depressed is not a good way to live.View Thread
You are amazed because you don't understand the great negativity that many ignorant people have about depression. They can be very critical of you. Hardly a way to get the support that you are looking for. Of course you can tell close friends and family about your depression, who may or may not understand.
Just know that if you publicly post about your depression on Facebook, many are going to judge you very negatively, especially if they are not close friends. And once it is in the public domain, it is there forever. Potential employers can find it and will likely discriminate against you. If you are looking for support, you are better off to post on here for support where there are many of us who do understand about depression.View Thread
Alissimo, I am the first one to suggest that spouses set boundaries and insist that their spouses do everything to treat their depression, but your statements sound selfish and irresponsible--just leave them without any assistance to help them get treated. Many people with depression do have chemical imbalances that need anti-depressants which do help millions of people--far from the miniscule percentage of people that you say. I hope that you never suffer from depression and are with someone with your viewpoints. And I would wonder whether your spouse dumped you due to your depression or because of your personality. And I hope that you will find more compassion for your daughters if they ever become depressed.View Thread
First of all, get the guns out of your home. They are too much of a hazard to you. You say that you haven't supported your wife financially, yet you say that you have luxury cars and a good home. So how much is your wife suffering from your business not taking off the way that you would like it to? It doesn't sound like the business gives you any joy though when you say that you have lost your motivation to excel. Perhaps you should try working at something else. And it is entirely possible for you to support your wife emotionally more if you want her to stay supporting you emotionally which you say that you don't think that you can cope without her. Another thing that I think is very important is for you to reach out to others to have some emotional support from friends. You shouldn't have everything in your psychological survival wrapped up with just one person. Lastly, see your doctor and tell them that you are still having depression, are deathly afraid of losing your wife--literally, consider suicide sometimes, etc. Your doctor, hopefully a psychiatrist, can better help you. I too have suffered far worse depression than you describe. Finding the right medication did finally treat it. Wish you the best.View Thread
I would take it seriously. Many people who commit suicide have voiced the idea to others ahead of time. People don't take it seriously and they do it. Ask him if he meant it and if not, why did he post it. I would tell him that you are very concerned and that he must see a doctor about it ASAP. How are you going to feel if he does in fact kill himself? The other option would be to have him committed, but I know that you are too afraid of losing him to do that. What a bad situation.View Thread
You reference the past, but what are you talking about currently? There is a huge success rate with anti-depressants helping depression. Yes, therapy is also promoted by psychiatrists. If you know what other treatments are better than drugs and therapy for depression and other mental illnesses, why don't you enlighten us? Your vague criticisms don't amount to anything concrete.View Thread