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You are right - difficult situation when one shuts you out completely. Again, not your fault - nothing you can or could have done. You're doing what those of us who are Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA) survivors call the "what ifs". What if I would have fought off my abuser, what if he was not stronger than me, what if I could have prevented it? Nothing I could have done, I was just a child. Nothing you can do, he won't let you in. Sounds to me like his loss! You seem like a very nice, very sweet girl and you are not to blame!!It is not easy to hear "maybe you should just find someone else" especially if we still care about the other person. But, for your own sake - you may want to look elsewhere. If there is one thing I know, it is that there is a person out there for everyone. I know it sounds cliche, but it is true. You will find your soul mate and you will know when you have found him!
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Sounds to me as if your boyfriend is not willing to get his depression properly treated. He needs to, you can't do it for him. This is not your fault! I do not believe having depression can cause you to stop loving someone. I have not stopped loving my wife. If anything, I love her more for standing by me and wanting to see me get better.
Speaking from personal experience, it sounds to me like your boyfriend has other issues that he is either not adressing or admitting himself, or not letting you in on. Typically, there are other illnesses that come along with depression. In my case, I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and I am also addicted to prescription pain killers. I am working on addressing the childhood sexual abuse, and my wife has been bery supportive. It has made us grow closer - not farther apart. Not working so much on kicking the pain killers, but gotta chose your battles wisely if you know what I mean?
How you handle this is up to you. But, like I said I think your boyfriend has other issues besides the depression that he is not letting you in on.
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Are you on any meds for depression? If not, you may want to consider them. If you are, maybe they just need to be adjusted or maybe different meds need to be tried. You should talk to your primary care doctor about what you are going through and ask for some help. That is how I started out on antidepressants over 10 years ago. Yep, still on them but they help me out quite a bit.
Hang in there Jules - it can and does get better - you just gotta believe and keep trying!
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I would leave the dose as is for at least another week or so. You are probably more anxious about the minor procedure you are going to have on Tuesday. Do you have anyone who supports you? Husband, friend, etc.? I hope so
I would confide in them that you are feeling anxious about the procedure and see what they have to say.I would not post-pone the procedure if it were me. I am sure everything will be fine and rescheduling it will only make you worry about it longer
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Sounds like you and I have a very similar situation. I have a high pressure job where I have to work a lot of extra hours. Same as you, am told to be sure to take some time off, but then get called on the carpet if I don't deliver on time. What the hell? Sorry to hear about your work mate. Sounds like the place you are working is not an "ideal" place to work. I know times are tough, but perhaps you should consider moving on as well? You should also consider having your antidepressants adjusted. I have several times over the course of 10 years of being on them. Start with your primary care physician.
You may also want to consider seeing a Psychologist to help with the depression. I recently started to see a Psychologist for depression as well as CSA and it has really really helped me to cope better!
Hang in there and keep us posted on your progress.
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I am a survivor of Childhood Sexual Abuse and have discussed some pretty disturbing things with my Psychologist - yes, she has helped me by discussing these things. I am sure a Psychologist can help you too. There is hope, things can get better! You say you don't talk about these things at all. That is exactly my point! You need to. I have had, and still have suicidal thoughts, but have developed a rapport with my Psychologist where I have told her about these feelings. No big deal, as long as you don't really plan on doing it
Well, I will get off my soap box now
I hope you find my advice helpful and that you take it. I think it would help you.Take care,View Thread

You don't necessarily need a psychiatrist, I am seeing a psychologist and she is making me feel better. Please consider going to a psychologist. You are alive because of you! And, your husband. If it were not for my wife, I would be lost and asking the same thing. Things can, and do get better with time and the right antidepressants.
I hope this helps!
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