We go 2 speak to a counselor this wk but my husbands doctor told him he was suffering from depression. Its understandable...he had a near fatal heart attack 1yr&7mo ago, hes also a diabetic and a kidney transplant patient. We also have responsibility of his elderly father, who is not the easiest person to deal with. Its a long story but with all the "inlaw drama" it caused problems in our marriage. We will celebrate 25 yrs soon. The question I have is...is it normal for someone with depression to go outside the marriage for the support they need. I have cared and supported him thru all his illnesses in fact I gave him one of my kidneys. I take care of 99%of our household and try to do anything I can to help him in any way. Hes been so irritable and hard to get along with sometimes its just unbearable. Therefore there has been a distance between us. I found out this weekend, he had been talking with a woman he met at his Dads nursing home. They had become very close, 40 calls on last months bill. I flipped...he and she claim that he would ask her advise on how to make things better in our marriage and admitted to her our problems were his fault. My husband is not a "typical" man, hes no "horn dog" hes actually naÃ¯ve when it comes to modern women. When I found out about all this, he admitted that when they were leaving the nursing home one nite at the same time they shared a mutual kiss. Claimed it was just a quick peck. I lost my mind!!! never in a million years would I have thought he would have done this...believe me Im not naÃ¯ve, I know what people are capable of. Every friend I have tells me how sweet and nice my husband is and would be "blown away" if they knew what he had done. Going back to his depression, he is suffering pretty badly. Ive done everything I could to help but he was hard-headed and wouldn't listen when I mentioned to him long ago what could be going on. He very remorseful for what he has done and had realized a few weeks back that all their conversing about our problems was not a good idea. When I asked him why he kissed her...he says he doesn't know. is this normal for a depressed man? can anyone enlighten me....Im losing my mind over this!View Thread
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