Hi so sorry for your troubles. (I am just recently diagnosed with bipolar. Years ago I had been diagnosed with major depression and all my husband and I would do was argue about my "inaction." So at least now I have an accurate diagnosis - maybe he can understand bipolar better than depression (he used to believe I was simply "lazy" which I'm sure many depressed people get that opinion made of them).
The tip I offer is this - I wonder if there is some kind of support group people can go to whose loved ones have mental illness? If you perhaps send him to this rather than take him with you to your therapist. I never think it is a good idea for my husband to go to therapy with me - the 2 different times he came it was a disaster, but that's just us. ...
So, yes, wondering if there is something like what they have for children of alcoholics - support groups! That would be my tip to you. And I don't mean just a complaint session. It would have to be guided by a certified/licensed therapist who knows the clinical aspect of mental illnesses and not simply "MaryJane-whose-husband-is depressed" but who has NO training, doing a round table discussion with the attendees. That would not work, it could go very wrong. ...Loved ones of depressed individuals need support, and sometimes to step away from the situation, outside of it kind of, and talking with others in the same predicament sometimes might be better than going with you to your therapist. And it's likely that a combination of both might help? Also wanted to say something to Jaded7364 - I feel for you and think the same as you - glad that my kids are grown so they don't have to see it! I feel/hope bipolar, if it can't be cured, can successfully be managed.
So sorry to EVERYONE for their troubles, no asks for mental illness. Take care!View Thread