Ugg. I don't care how new the PA is, that's just bad medical care. "A woman doesn't feel well? Must be her hormones!" Why not just say your womb is butting up against your liver* and have done with it?
Definitely see another doctor. If it were me, I'd send a sharp note to that practice, letting them know why you aren't coming back.
*For thousands of years the sharpest medical minds believed the womb could and did roam around inside your body. Women's physical and mental illnesses could be traced to where an errant womb had gotten lodged. Hence the word "hysteria." (Hystera = Uterus in Greek.) Honest, look it up.View Thread
Hi there and welcome. I wouldn't worry about what the psychologist MIGHT do, just focus on letting the therapist help you get better, that means being open with him or her.
I can tell you that during my first MDE I had constant suicidal thoughts and had pretty much stopped functioning (wasn't eating, bathing or leaving the house), I told the therapist all of this and I wasn't committed.
Hi and welcome Sorry to hear you're going through this. I think it is good that you at least understand what depression is like.
You probably also understand that there may be no evident reason someone becomes depressed. As for dealing with it, do you mind if I ask if you're currently being treated? Sometimes setting an example can help. Or even "I'm going to therapy, would you like to come with me?"
I also wonder if you've talked to him about your depression? He may not know if he's depressed. He may suspect it and be ashamed to admit it but knowing you're in the same boat may encourage him to think about it and open up.View Thread
Last week I was out walking around and it suddenly struck me how dirty everything is. I live in a big city. I've lived here 99% of my life. It has always been dirty. It will always be dirty. But that night the sight of ground-in chewing gum and some cups blowing around made my flesh crawl. I thought it was just a combination of being out after dark in a dodgy area.
But then I got home. Our house is not dirty. We tidy as we go with more intense cleaning on the weekends. But it was the same thing. There were a few hairs in the bathroom sink (mine). That grossed me out. There were a couple of dishes in the sink and I felt a little sick. The carpets were a little cat hairy and I almost wanted to cry. I know this sounds a little weird but I swear at one point it was all I could do to stay in the house because it seemed so dirty and I knew there was no way I could clean it all.
I'm really hoping this is just some odd symptom of depression because I could actually handle that better than a new illness. But I wondered because my grandmother had it and it was "triggered" by feeling that things were dirty. I wondered if this was an early stage?View Thread
Glad you're doing all right.In addition to this website there are a lot of online resources for people dealing with depression, including a group that peer support sessions throughout the week: http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=peer_OSG. I'd also encourage you to talk to someone at your school at about the bullying. You don't have to tell them how it makes you feel if you don't want to, but just make them aware what's going on.
The only thing I can add here is I've been exactly where you are only I think you're in a better position, mentally. I was and still am a nerd so I got bullied a LOT by students and the teachers. But you at least have some idea what's bothering you and why. I was just really unhappy. However, I can tell you how fantastic it was GRADUATE from high school. Knowing I didn't have to see a bunch of students and teachers who were just plain mean ever again was one of the best days of my life. I'm 44 and I swear when I'm having a really bad day I'll still think "At least I'm not in high school." And yes, I feel better.
So yeah, you can get through it. Please take care and keep checking back with us.View Thread
Agreed. And even if you are seeing a psychiatrist, if you feel the one you're seeing isn't helping you ... Find another. The symptoms you describe are often seen in depression I know for me I become very bath resistant when I'm severely depressed. But as Lexis says, do find the right health care provider.
A question I have: Have you tried talk therapy? Or even a support group for single parents?View Thread
Weekend before last my husband and I went to a company party. Earlier in the day he went out and came home about 30 minutes before we were supposed to leave. It took him more than hour to get ready because he didn't like any of his clothing choices. (So much for stereotypes about women!)
I should say I wasn't terribly surprised because he didn't really want to go and when he doesn't want to do something he becomes VERY inert. And I think, passive-aggressive. I can't say he doesn't care about his appearance and he cleans up pretty. But I keep hoping that maybe THIS time we won't go through the same pattern. He finally got dressed and after I assured him he looked great a few times (he did) I asked how I looked.
So I could tell the evening was going to be fun right then. We went to leave and he asked if we were going to drive or take the train. When I suggested driving because there was valet parking he announced we'd either have to go through a car wash or he'd have to hose off the car.
So we took the train and got there a lot later than I wanted and he was very hungry and so cranky as a result. We wound up spending the time near the food when I really wanted to see the place where the party was held. Well, I couldn't get into a row with him in front of my co-workers and I was too tired to say anything after. That night I had a horrible dream in which I was trying to explain to him how much his behavior upset me and he just didn't care.
Now it is almost three weeks later and I'm STILL mad. It isn't just that I don't want to talk about it with him. I want to call this relationship off as a failed experiment and walk away. It just seems hopeless. We live in a huge city. I like to see it regularly. Sometimes I even like to get dressed up and go out. We used to do this more but now, unless it is a movie he wants to see or something outdoorsy he says "That isn't worth the money." "No, it will be too crowded." (Crowds make him dizzy and tired.) "No, that doesn't interest me." When I want to go out on my own he sulks, which makes me livid. In the almost 2 decades he's known me I have never been one to stay at home unless I feel wretched. Now I think he thinks I'm having an affair. Oh yes, me and the art museum are torrid lovers except when I'm sneaking off to get it on with the library. Nonsense.
Anyway, I'm just venting. I just can't imagine doing this for years and years and years. Sitting at home all day makes me feel useless and I have too much time to THINK. But I don't want to tell him "Honey I have to get out because I feel depressed," because that feels like emotional blackmail.
I'm sorry you're going through this. I hope you'll take care of yourself. I strongly suggest you to talk to a counselor yourself to get help working through this. You can ask her to go with you, but if she won't, that shouldn't stop you.
The only exception to this of course is if she becomes suicidal. It doesn't sound like she is, but if that happens, that's the point you call 9-1-1.
Please keep checking in here because there are a lot of people dealing with depressed significant others and family members.