Hi there. I too am glad you've found other people in the same boat. If my depression made life difficult for my husband I'd want him to find other people in the same situation.
I'll also say that if I made my husband feel he had to walk on eggshells, was verbally abusive to him and generally treated him poorly on an ongoing basis, I wouldn't have the right to complain if he said Goodbye.
Yes, your husband is sick, but that is not an excuse to treat other people poorly. If he is just treating you this way and is reasonable with people outside of the family, that's a sign he can control it and being ill has nothing to do with it.
Either way, being depressed (or having any other illness) is not an excuse for being mean. And sometimes we need someone close to us to tell us we're not behaving acceptably to goad us to think. Maybe to think about seeking more or other kinds of treatment or maybe just realize that we'd be a heck of a lot more unhappy if someone we drove away someone we love.View Thread
Just wanted to say stay safe to my fellow East Coasters and everyone else in Sandy's path. Being cooped up all day is not the best for one's mood but I keep telling myself at least I have a roof and walls to keep me cooped.View Thread
It simply isn't true there is no one to help you. We're here for you for one. Even if you can't afford to see a professional counselor there are plenty of online groups, some of which offer real-time sessions for people with depression. I know it is hard to think your family doesn't love you. I don't know if it is true or not, but they aren't the only people in the world and who care about your well being.
But you also should call a Crisis hotline IMMEDIATELY if you're feeling this way.
I hope it works out well for you all too. I've dated a number of people with addiction issues but it wasn't until I dated someone who was in recovery and told me to go to Al-Anon meetings that I realized I was the WORST mate for an active addict because it is very, very hard for me to set boundaries and follow through on them. They were never going to get anywhere with me being a marshmallow the whole time. And frankly, that sort of relationship didn't do much for me either, mental health wise.View Thread
That must have been very hard but I think you did the right thing. Sometimes it takes an extreme jolt to make people realize that what they're doing just isn't working AND it has a negative impact on others. Sure it would be great if you could be there to watch him get better, but sometimes being there keeps a person from realizing they need to do more work.View Thread
Great reminder about not putting booze and Trazodone in your system at the same time.
I can say that a 25 mg dose three hours after one beer will cause you to sleep and sleep and sleep and sleep and freak out your significant other who will panic and call your next door neighbor (who is a nurse) and everyone will be really irritated when you finally drag yourself out of bed.
Hi, it can be hard when you're dealing with an illness and you don't get support from the person who is closest to you. But the fact is, some people are just rotten at dealing with people who don't feel well. I don't get it myself, but that's how some people are.
This is just me, but I think they can even make things worse by saying they want to help or will help and then not helping or worse, being grouchy. And then there is the fact that people in general don't understand depression and can have some incorrect notions about it. He may be getting "sad" and "depressed confused. I know I had to have a long discussion about what depression was and how it felt when I told my husband I was depressed.
I know it doesn't change the fact that you're depressed but I guess I'm trying to say you may not be able to rely on him to help. You may have to turn to some other person for your chief source of support. Maybe he could go to some counseling sessions with you so he understands how you're feeling? You might be able to come up with some things that he can do to to help you out.
And of course, please keep checking back here.View Thread