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You will be fine, you sound very sensible, smart, and things will be positive for you. You need find yourself a hobby, or something you like doing to help clear your head. It worked for me, and now I am slowly opening my eyes. Caught in a web of something I never did want to see. Read my post before yours. You will understand.
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Here is my story; My fiancé is currently very happy with me despite my feeling towards her son and my own kids. The ages of our children are 19, 21, 23. I seem fit that they do what they have to do, and move out. I am 48 years now and I want "me time". The thing that holds me back the most is her son (23). She is very close to him and is always thinking of helping him, making sure he does the right thing and always brings him up in conversation. Like he is always on her mind, and unable to cut the umbilical cord. This is no way in this world that this could be normal? She had to bring him up through ugly father (3) which I was told that they were a-holes, and he has diabetes and anger management problems. Geeze, he final decided on getting himself on meds, therefore his Mom still watches him like a hawk, always wondering how he is doing, always texting him, cannot leave him to grow up on his own. I am now sitting back and watching what is going on and it is disturbing me to no end. I feel like a third wheel.
I am sorry to drop this on all of you and was wondering should I just walk away? Some days I would like and let their relationship still go on? Would I be happy to do this to the one I truly love? Every time I mention that I feel as if I am the third wheel, she gets very defensive as if she would lose her son because I wanted her to make a choice. During a disagreement she threw that in my face that she does not want a choice, and if I am looking at this differently; "I guess I already the choice?" I guess I am destined to be by myself?
Somebody please read this and tell me I am not out of my mind?View Thread






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