Way to go Mumsy! I am so proud of you for standing up for yourself. Please remember that your husbands behavior may get worse before it gets better because people fight harder when trying to maintain homeostasis in a relationship. So stick to your guns because you deserve respect at the very least. Have a great time visiting your sister and laugh alot.View Thread
Hi Mumsy I am sorry that you are struggling and stuck between a rock and a hard place.
I too live with a husband suffering from depression and have had to lay down strict rules regarding how I will and won't be talked to. I understand that he is suffering but I am not a scape goat to be treated poorly because he is depressed. Just because I love him and won't leave does not meen he has the right to take his anger and frustration out on me. I simply walk away or turn and tell him that his behavior is unacceptable.
Have you considered a half-way house for your son? I know it is a big step but I have a nephew who is thriving in one and his mother is no longer living under his dark cloud.
Please keep posting because when you share your life with us I know that I am not alone. HUGS.View Thread
Dear sheswounded I may not have many answers for you but I am an old pro at apologies. I was taught that if I do something wrong to make a prompt and sincere apology. Take responsibilty for my actions but only MY actions and then move on with a clear conscience. None of us are perfect and I have definatley not always been the person I should have been but that does not matter today. Everyday I get to make the chjoice to do the next right thing and let the chips fall where they may. You are not a bad person. Perhaps taking a different view may help: only strong people have the ability to say they are sorry. PLease keep posting because we care about you.View Thread
I am married to a wonderful man. He is kind, generous affectionate and a total guffball. He is without a doubt my best friend but there is a problem. He suffers from depression and he changes completely. He is sullen and distant toward me. He thinks everyone is out to ruin him in every way possible and "we" are all plotting and manipulating his miserable life. Everything is negative to him. I am a happy and opptimistic person who enjoys the small things in life and try to reason with him or cheer him out of it but I fail every time. I don't know what to do anymore and am losing my patience. I try to remember that he is sick but it is a struggle for me. I have never posted before so please excuse me if I missed the point but I am lonely and tired. Any advice or support would be wonderful. Thank you.View Thread
Thanks Chez Thankfully I do have family although they live far away but I find it hard to tell friends what is going on. Some of the things my husband says when depressed sound so outlandish and follow so little reasoning that I can't even explain it to a stranger. He was taking Paxil but he struggled with side-effects, so his doc put him on the dreaded Wellbutrin and all hell broke loose. He went into a tailspin on Wellbutrin and it took me 6 months to convince him that he wasn't just crazy but that there was a problem with the meds. He is now taking Zoloft but hates the idea of taking meds. I had to tell him that I would leave if he stopped taking the medication. I don't meen to sound harsh and I know that it is a sickness but if he isn't willing to do something as simple as take a pill each morning to help us get through these episodes them I feel like I am living out a prison sentence with no hope of parole. I have read what other people have posted and it seems that they are living with constant depression. My husband is more like a set of huricanes. He can be laughing, affectionate and looking forward to the future and then within 10 minutes all is bad in the world and he has completely shut down from everything. Do you have an idea what this is? Thanks and sorry for the rant.View Thread