Hello....I almost feel some sense of relief as I read what each of you are going through because I know I am not the only one living with a depressed spouse, but no one I encounter understands or can help. When I share with his family I get feedback as if I am to blame for these episodes. My husband is self employed, so his latest episode of depression he blames on work and how difficult it his for him to get clients. He has been very blessed and has always had business. I am not sure where this fear and uncertainty comes from because it isn't true. This has been the longest bout of depression for him. It stared in April. We had two family vacations (rare) in the summer and he has a difficult time bouncing back after a vacation because he is away from work too long. After our last vacation he had to be hospitalized. That was the first time. He just hasn't been himself since then. This time, for no reason that I am aware of, he has been in bed for 3 weeks. On the weekends, when no one is depending on him for work, he is able to function. It is difficult for me to understand and it makes me angry. I try very hard to be supportive. I try not to enable. I didn't know when we married 13 years ago that he suffered from anxiety/depression. I have learned that his mom and 3 of his 4 siblings suffer from anxiety/depression. His mom had shock treatments in the 1950s, so it wasn't good. This episode I have been so desparate for help that I began e-mailing his siblings and letting them know how bad things really were. They do what they can, but they don't want to get in the middle of our business. He said that I am humiliating him by bothering his family, so I promised to stop. He sees a pschologist and a psychiatrist. He goes to the psychiatrist so he can get his meds and he has been on every single drug out there and is on a ridiculous amount of meds now with no relief. That doctor just keeps piling....ooops, busted....more laterView Thread
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