Trust me I have looked into going to college, but the cost is outrages and with the bills that we are going to owe when hes done is ridiculous! He makes good money now and when I tried for financial aid it was only gonna give me 200.00 buks towards it. I don't want to be strapped with bills, bills , bills! I have kids that haven't been on vaca but once and that was 7 years ago. my kids are 20, 16, and 8. I know I am doing the motherly, and wife duties but if he would just get a clue and figure out what the husband duty is I believe we would be fine.View Thread
For some reason my post, posted twice. and now have to responders. I've tried explaining to my husband too, to no avail he is lost in how to handle it i think or what his part is supposed to be. I don't want to tell him what i want or need from him, he should know these things! if I have to tell him what i need or what to do then what does that mean to me? I'm in my own relationship, right? I too have a 16 yr old son and he pretty much acts the same way. my younger child is so influenced by the neighbors family she tries their shannigans here at home which in turn makes me loose control, yell and say things i don't want too. which i know will destroy our realtionship in time. trust me i know the dream we all have for ourselves is never what reality truely is. but we should have some controlView Thread
I've been married for 8 years, and yes we tried counseling. About 4 years ago my son had said to me that I looked depressed so I took it very hard and found a therapist. I went to her for about 6 months by myself, which helped me work through things, but then she wanted me to bring him in on it. when I told him I was going to therapy i think he was sort of shocked. During these sessions she really got into his head and asked questions (of course) and come to find out that my depression is coming from him, and not all just me. after awhile he felt like he was being bashed by me and the female therapist, so we went to a man, and in those sessions it all came down to the same thing she was telling him. when the doc finally released us, or basically said there was nothing more he could do to save us, he basically gave my husband the tools to use. I don't want you to get the wrong idea of my husband he's not an arrogant, jerk. But the problem with him is I can tell him (or the therapists have told him) what he is doing by not communicating with me,or not truley understanding what im saying, and he says" I know" but doesn't follow through. He was a big mommas boy and she forgave him for everything, and of course thats what us moms do, except me, I will forgive but then also teach what is acceptable. Things have been like this for the last 5 years, I do not have a career and moved out of state for his job over 8 years ago and quit my job of 11 years and encouraged him to go to college, and he did and through all of the tough times I have stood by him and encouraged him to not quit and he will be soon graduating. As for me I got nothing... i keep thinking of what is going to happen when my last child graduates, if we have no communication now.View Thread
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