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Reply: "snap out of it"

I like to use an example to enlighten people about this idea that we can 'SNAP OUT IT"...

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Reply: in need

My heart goes out to you. I know how you feel. It's awful. If the sadness won't relent,...

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Reply: Disappointed in Viibryd

What is an orgasm? Sorry, my weak attempt at depression humor. I've been on...

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Reply: new at this

Hi - I read your post and it reminds me about how as women we are so inclined to live...

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Reply: Mom has cancer

Hang in there!!! My Dad had cancer a few years back and it is very draining. It's good...

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Reply: Living with a depressed spouse

Hi - I don't have a depressed spouse, but I understand depression as it runs in my...

Posted by SuzianStar

Hi - I don't have a depressed spouse, but I understand depression as it runs in my family and I have suffered from it on and off for most of my adult life. I am 52 and female. I think I can help perhaps by trying to help you understand that it is an illness - it REALLY is and it is debilitating. It really sucks because, unlike other illnesses, people tend to think we should be able to "snap out of it" but people would never expect someone with diabetes to snap out of that. Something is out of balance chemically in the brain and the brain stops working. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this, especially with two small children.

I'm curious, does you husband understand that he has an illness? Has he sought treatment for it? Does he talk about what brings it on for him....if anything? Some people get it in the winter only (SADS).

I'm honest with my son. Maybe you might feel better being honest with your kids. Daddy is sick, it's just a brain ache instead of a tummy ache. The worse thing about depression is that the exact things that might help us feel better are the exact things we feel totally incapable of doing (exercise for example). It takes away all motivation, drive, hope, enthusiasm, desire to do just about anything.

Has he talked to a doctor about it. Does he feel ashamed? It sounds like you feel ashamed of it. I encourage you to challenge that feeling. It's just an illness - period. There are drugs he can take for it that really work. I took Prozac and it really helped a great deal. I also took Effexor but I would CAUTION YOU do not let him take that one. It gives really awful withdrawal symptoms after missing only a dose or two. I was much happier with Prozac. There are many others. I would encourage you to take the time to do some online research on any drug your husband considers taking before taking it. Now adays we have to educate ourselves.

Try to remember it is just a disease. Sounds like you are beating yourself up for choosing a spouse with an illness. He may not have had it. It may have just started. Who knows. None of us are perfect. You may develop it at some point in your life too. Treat it like a disease because that is what it is. Get treatment for him. Make him go to the doctor. Make him face it. Is he at least aware that he has depression? How long does it last when it hits? Maybe keep a record in a calendar to see if there is a cycle to it. Maybe he has some childhood issues that are surfacing?

Sorry you have to deal with this. But is he a loyal, true husband? I'd rather a man with a treatable disease than a man without a conscious or a cheater.

I hope this helps.
Warmest Regards,
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Reply: Sick of not finding help!!

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Reply: Please someone talk to me!!!!

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