my husband just graduated medical school 2 weeks ago, we got married a little over a month ago, and have been together going on 10 years. it is supposed to be the happiest time in our lives right? so much hope in starting a new journey together. however, my husband has been very different lately. he's easily irritated, very quite, distant, theres no intimacy in our relationship. At first, we thought the obvious, nervous about starting this next chapter and entering residency. Anyone could see how that can put pressure on someone or a realtionship. However, he hasn't been able to shake this. Last night, he sat me down and explained to me that he was pretty sure he was suffering from depression. Being in the medical profession he knew all the symptoms well enough to put 2 and 2 together. I was completely taken back. This happy go lucky guy that never let anything get him down, who had worked his butt off in undergrad and med school to get to where hes at and to have achieved all of these goals was depressed? how can this be? im writing this on here because i have never dealt with a loved one who has depression. I don't know what to say or what to do to make him feel better or feel like its ok to have feelings like this. He has a physical scheduled for today and is going to talk to his doctor about whats going on. But I want to be there to support him and let him know im here for him, I just dont know how. He says he hasn't had any suicidal thoughts, but that is always in the front of my mind when i hear the word depression. I guess Im just looking for someone to lend an ear and tell me how they have dealt with this and how to be a supportive spouse. They always tell you the first year of marriage is the hardest, but this wasn't what i had in mind.
Thank you so much for responding. All that info was very helpful. Yesterday was a better day but I'm not getting my hopes up. After having his physical on Monday his primary doctor said it would be good to see a therapist, so he is this coming Monday. No pills have been prescribed yet, but we are open minded as to different treatments. I think he feels a little better after talking about it and getting it off his chest. Nights are the worst when we finish dinner and do nothing but relax and watch tv which used to be such an enjoyable time is now time where his mind wanders and allows him to think to much. It's especially worse because he is physician and has the mentality that he is supposed to help people with depression not be the one struggling with it. Right now we are taking things day by day. He just told me this Sunday yet I feel like I've been dealing with it for such a long time. I'm hopeful after hearing your advice and kind words. I can't thank enough!View Thread