Sometimes the best time to bring it up is on apparent good days as it can be better received.
My friend is currently suffering from anxiety and has started to get help and sometimes we help each other and sometimes it's a struggle as I worry my depression is making her worse and she worries (because of her anxiety) that she will come to my door and find me dead.
The best thing I have found between us is just being open and talking.
I hope he gets the help he needs and well done to you for seeking help for yourself.
I am getting help so just one day at a time, today is an ok day.
I am suffering with depression which I guess I've known for a very long time I just didn't want to really acknowledge it because I feel like people would judge me and I guess I'm quite a proud person.
However personally I feel the best thing you can do is tell your partner he needs to get help.
My friends continued to sit with me and eventually one friend begged me to get help. Literally begged! And something inside me snapped and I thought fine ill do what you ask not that I need to. But I did need it and I am getting help and my friends have praised me for it.
It's a tough road for all involved in depression which I'm only just starting to realise.
The beat way to explain would be to tell him you love him so much and it hurts you to see him hurting and that you will go with him to the doctors and if they don't listen or help you will keep going to as many different doctors until the right one does listen and does help.
I understand you not wanting to push him but he is the only one who can help himself and you can be there to support him.
I hope I've shed some light from my perspective as a sufferer and also from my friends perspective of making me get the help I need
The name just came to me when I joined, like you say it's so true, I think many people suffering with depression would agree.
I met with my friend and I had written a list of things I wanted to discuss when I was feeling rational so that if I got emotional during out chat or started to think she hated me etc I would have my list to focus on.
I apologised for upsetting her and then I just let her speak until she was finished and then I spoke through my points and we chatted abit. Then she told me about some shows she'd ordered as we are going on holiday in November to visit my sister who lives abroad. But it was funny because she told me she'd been itching to tell me about the clothes etc but she refused to message me because she was cross with me. Little did she know how uplifting it was that she had wanted to talk to me.
I stayed for a while after our chat and we just had normal conversations and when I came to leave we had a hug and as I went to pull away she hugged me a little tighter. My immediate thought was whats she doing? But then after I realised that she just wanted to hug me because she cares and she has no idea what that means to me.
I just hope I keep that in my head the next time I start to doubt them.
I went back to my docs for my check up and he's upped the strength of my tablets and we have discussed possible counselling so ill see what happens.
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Hearing it from someone outside of my life is incredible. I didn't think anyone else would be able to understand but knowing that others experience similar and understand the torment is such a relief. I may be mental but at least I'm not alone lol.
I am going to see a friend after work this evening, if I can still call her that as she is the one who is angry at me because I hurt her. I was wrong I know that but how to explain to someone who doesn't understand that all I crave is their love and acceptance but my mind disagrees
Fingers crossed it goes well and I am going to try my hardest to listen and try not to take negatives but look at positives instead.
Thank you so much for your reply, it really means a lot.
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Am new to this site and hoping for someone who may understand. I have recently been prescribed anti depressants as was my second visit to the doctors in six years they decided it was the best course of action.
I have very low self esteem and at the recommendation from a friend I have started cognative behaviour therapy (CBT) my sessions make sense, the tablets initially helped.
But for some reason the last few weeks I have started feeling more insecure than ever, believing my friends don't care and only talk to me out of pity or habit or guilt.
I have a small group of friends of which my cousin was part of, an argument broke out with my cousin and myself and she told me lots of spiteful things about not liking me never liking me, telling me I'm lying about my depression laughing at me telling me I'm a horrible person and don't deserve friendship.
My other friends in the group don't agree with her and have told her she was spiteful however they are still friends with her as she hasn't done anything to them.
My friends have told me they love me and praised me for getting help but for some reason I cannot accept they are telling the truth.
It's like I no longer trust my own instincts.
I can't tell if they are genuine or whether they agree with my cousin.
I told a friend I didn't think she'd miss me if I died as I don't think it would affect her life and she got upset with me and said that was a hurtful and disgusting thing to say. It just made me feel worse about myself.
I can no longer determine whether I'm justified to think my friends aren't actually friends and don't actually like me or whether I'm purposely pushing them away.
I don't know what to do anymore and feel very isolated
Can anyone help? Has anyone experienced similar?View Thread