I read your post and all the replies. Sadly I was once like that man that many describe they had as a husband. I mean, word by word. Type 2 diabetes, depression, anti-social, sleeping all the time, not going out, quit going to her mother's, sent wife by herself to Christmas and Thanksgiving at her parents, clingy, low self esteem, "it's all your fault", the works. I was born and raised a city boy. I met her and went to live with her to a town of population 700 and we married; were married for 12 years. I cussed the town we lived in and blamed it and her for all our business failures, personal problems, blah blah blah. My wife loved me to death but 12 years later she started going out with other guys she met on the internet and I don't blame her. I was a very miserable human being. I read all her emails to those guys and she would tell them things like she loved me a lot and wanted to grow old with me, blah blah blah but that my depression was killing her. She dated some of those guys behind my back and ended up divorcing me. Now I'm totally a different man in a new relationship. I really miss her and I still love her with all my heart. We have a 5 year old daughter together. And here is where you have to listen. I wish my ex-wife would've threatened me with divorce if I didn't get my butt to the doctor, exercise, and do a complete turn around. I wish she would've just left me for a couple days under the threat of divorce just so I could wake up and feel what was not having her. I needed to face reality. Depression hurts, it blinds you, it makes you take love ones for granted. I know it sounds harsh but might want to try and scare the crap out of him with that. Tell him you are going to divorce him and leave for a week to your mother's. Be tough. He needs to hit the reality wall and wake up. He is in a deep trance and needs your help. Good luck to you all.View Thread
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