You can not expect her to stop talking to her son, you have an unrealistic expectation, and if thats not what you are suggesting you are not wording it right, and this is why your wife is getting angry. You are making her choose between her son and you, when she should be able to have both. You are going to have to be an adult and deal with it. You are kind of being selfish to be honest.View Thread
BB there are lots of helpful diagnosis guides on the Webmd site, you can search symptoms and determine which sound most like you. "Knots" is a slangy term to describe your stomach problem, its difficult to be sure exactly whats the problem with that description. Do you mean stomach cramps or pain? do you have other symptoms associated with the discomfort? Like diarrhea or nausea? Have you ever consulted a doctor about the stomach discomfort? I too have belly aches every day. I get gas, bloating, cramping, diarrhea, constipation, nausea, the works. Gosh its like having the flu several times a week for short intervals during the day. My doctor told me I have irritable bowel syndrome a few years ago. Ive had a colonoscopy and didnt have cancer or anything real serious they thought they could fix. It was pretty inconclusive the whole deal... Im still having alot of digestive/bowel problems and pain that keeps me up at night some times, but when I saw my doctor recently he said that kind of thing is going around right now.
Ive also heard before that if you allow yourself to build on your own anxiety, to the point where you could pop with stress.... you can make yourself sick to your stomach.View Thread
I am madder then a nest full of hornets getting kicked around.
My fiance told me he has bad credit, I had a feeling he must be lying about what he owes and what his score was, but I had no proof to go accusing him, now Ive applied for this house to rent and were getting denied because he owes 830 to the gas company and over 80 to two city electric companies. I am trying to think of how to approach this situation...
I am really upset some times I think hed full of crap and I should just call the whole wedding off and be done with him if he cant tell the truth.
I have always had a feeling hes hiding things from me ever since his sons mom spilled the beans about his 3rd kid.
Before he had his son and daughter, he got the other woman pregnant who has never let him see the boy and made him sign his parental rights over, so I guess its a really touchy subject. so he never told me since he doesnt like to talk about it. Ill be honest it still disturbs me he lied about that even tho I told him I understand. I cant say Im not questioning if we should get married.View Thread
And of course everytime I find a house I can imagine actually living in, some one else has already applied and been approved for it.
The first one I looked at I guess I shouldve been more aggresive but it was my very first time doing this so I thought that keeping my options open was the best idea, little did I know that there would be no better options after the first home I looked at.
By the time I got around to applying the realtor got my hopes up, and then told me hes approved some one else. I was so sad. I was mentally moved in that house. This was 3 days ago, and by now theres no chance Ill ever get that house the realtor hasnt even returned my inquiry call... Im still sad over it. The yard was perfect, the front porch, the street, the bedroom, the price, the neighbors. I was so psyched over that house.
Ive applied for another house... Ive looked ALLL over town, and there is only one other house that I would seriously consider renting, all the others are like run-down smelly nightmares, I am amazed that landlords think they can really rent a house with out doing any cleaning at all? Im supposed to pay you all this money to move into a dirty house? a mess that some one else had made? That really pisses me off. "new carpet" you go in the house that supposedly had new carpet, and its got black track marks, and brown stains all over it. WTF! or the basement smells like someone pooped on the floor. ick! I cant believe folks live in places like that or that landlords expect them to!
This house I applied for is really cute inside from the pictures, and looking thru the windows. I finally got the key so I can get inside after work today. but umm... its not really a big deal, but I just feel this house would be so much more perfect if there werent a whole extra house in its back yard.
The city I live in, has tons of these beautiful old victorian mansions, that slum-lords have gone in and spliced plaster walls down the middle of crown molding staircases to split these mansions up into quadroplexes etc. It apparently was the huge trend in the 60s according to my dad. I think its a darn shame to go and mess up a beautiful old mansion just so you can cram 8 families into one property. Which dont even sound right, my dad was a landlord for 25 years, and he said theres a law that there has to be 2 parking spaces per unit. Ive gone to look at houses that dont have a drive way or even enough room in the street to park in front of the house... so IDK how folks are getting away with cramming these properties!!!! Now the historical society has laws in place to protect the old homes, but thats a whole other night mare for potential home owners!!!
This house is of course not a quardo-plex, its just a house, a 2bedroom 1 bathroom, with another house in its back yard. I find this comparable to the quardoplex issue because they have taken a perfect lot and made it into an imperfect lot. Sure the home owner is making double the profit off of one lot, but now Im gonna have to share my back yard and my drive way, and being that Im moving out for the first time, and Ive already lived in a duplex the past 10 years, I was hoping to find a house to rent with my own drive way and my own front and back yard. Oh well this house has 1/2 a drive way and a front yard, that will have to do. Cause its a great price for the nicer part of town. We wont have to move to the hood to afford a home. And I have been broken into living in the nice part of town, I cant even begin to imagine the stress living in a bad neighborhood being paranoid of robbery would do to me.
Sometimes I think I experience mania, cause Ill go thru phases of racing thoughts. Right now its as if I couldnt talk or do enough, but I know that I dont have anything great to say or that interesting, but I just cant stop thinking or talking about it... IDK. Im a wierd person thats for sure... But my therapist and everyone dont agree cause I switch too quickly...View Thread
So I had my birthday this weekend, I turned 25. Most uneventful birthday since Ive turned 21. Its not fun anymore to get older, now its all downhill from here. I know Im not old at all, but I just have a bad attitude sticking around I cant kick.
I just feel really foggy right now, cant think very well.
I spent my entire weekend looking for houses to rent. We applied for 3 now, the first one we were beaten to apparently. I think the land lord met some one he liked better, he wasnt very nice to me on the phone... he wasnt a very good speaker, so I was impatient with him over the phone. I cried tho alot when I found out we did not get that house cause I really wanted it. The house and the lot together made it perfect. We noticed theres alot more houses for sale then rent, I am going to apply for a home loan today and see how much I can be approved for... on weekend mornings it seems like I can gain a clear head to do this house hunting, but right now Im thinking about loans, and rent applications, and how much money I will have to budget out for this, and it turns into a low buzz in my mind, and I just wanna turn it off and go back to sleep this morning. and then Id like to sit at home and make business calls today with out looking over my shoulder for my boss.View Thread
I have been convinced I was unable to exercise for the past few months cause Ive just felt ghastly... but my fiance got me to go to the gym with him on Monday, and I have felt GREAT for the past two days or so.View Thread
Im pretty upset this morning, cause I come home from work yesterday and was shocked at the fact there was a for sale sign in my front yard.
I have lived with my dad at our house since I was 15. Hes owned that house forever, I grew up there visiting before I lived with him. Its a duplex theres a 2 bedroom apartment upstairs and a 1 bed downstairs, its like a "mother-in-law" house... He told me I could live downstairs as long as he stayed there cause if I didnt live there it would just be empty.
I recently became engaged and since my fiance lived with 3 room mates the logical thing was to move in with me, and pay my dad rent.
I just talked to my dad like 2 days ago, and he didnt say anything about I should start saving money cause hes gonnasell the house, or that he was upset, or that he was mad at my fiance. He was gone all day the next day so I didnt have the chance to talk to him then, I dont know what happenedin between now and Sunday but I am just shocked. My fiance got home before I did and went to ask my dad what was going on and my dad told him to get out and just leave, and when I got home my dad wasnt home... So I havent gotten to ask him what was the matter. I went to my brothers house and he made me dinner and tried to cheer me up.
I have been trying to tell myself everything will be okay and that its time to leave the nest, and just to chill out, it will be fun finding a new place to live. But on the other hand, I wasnt prepared for this, it wasnt part of the plan, I am afraid, and hurt that he didnt discuss it with me prior to putting the sign up. Im also hurt he yelled at my fiance, I could tell my hunny was really bummed out last night over this.
I feel overwhelmed again, like nothing is going right, me and my hunny had an argument on sunday I told him the kids drive me crazy cause we dont have room for them, and then my dad told my hunny that one of them swung a stick at him. My dad didnt mention this to me, I am so confused....View Thread
to put it very simply BB its not back talking when you are the parent. She is your daughter, and it is not disrespectful of you to provide her with the guidance she needs, whether she wants to hear it or not. Anyone with a short temper has no patience for folks who are afraid of them, you need to stand up to your daughter, and set things right.View Thread