Jaws I am not sure what to say to console you and your wifes fears of her biopsy. I just want to say its more important than ever to be thankful for eachother after everything you have been through in your marriage, just be thankful for eachother, and treat eachother well.
But like you said, it could be nothing!
2 friends of mine have had breast cancer scares, and they were biopsied, turned out they were a cyst or an over sized lymph node (lymph nodes naturally occus all over our bodies and can some times harmlessly become larger, which is why you feel the bump.)
Try to look to the brighter side of things if she is positive for cancer, and be supportive that she can get through this, and is not doomed for death. My grandmother had a double masectomy when she was 68 and she is now 85. Another friend of mine was much younger, she had a single masectomy as age 28. She has reconstructive surgery of her breasts, and is not 32, her doctors have cleared her after 5 years as a lesser relapse risk.
It can be really hard for a woman to lose her breast(s) so if that happens, you have to again, be very supposrtive. Just be thankful you still have eachother now, and thank god everyday jaws, and I believe everything will work out....View Thread
I dont think that you mean to over-react, and what other percieve as over reacting, can actually be a persons anxiety that they are unable to control, sometimes people have over-active nerve endings in their brains that send too many nervous signals. Yes you may be more concerned then the average student, but this is not bad. I too was not very good at math in school, I always paid very close attention in school, and when i got into high school classes were too easy for me cause I was in advanced classes in middle school and had already learned what they were teaching, EXCEPT for math. I was always in the basic math class, I was always having to cheat on tests, Im not going to lie the only reason I passed chemistry and geometry, physics, algebra, etc was because I had a couple of really nice smart friends who let me copy their work. I know thats not very honest, but Im just trying to show you that alot of folks struggle in school and we all have different ways of handling it.
Your dad shouldnt slap you. My dad slapped me once and I never forgave him. We are very close, and he becomes ashamed of himself if I bring up that incident, he is actually in denial over it. Your dad might feel the same way, but its not fair that you are now fearful of reaching out for help I am sorry!View Thread
I havent had a similar experience cause I have never applied for disablity, but I know that federal funding is never in a hurry to jump in some ones wallet! maybe call them and see how much longer it should be?View Thread
Even if you feel like you made a fool of yourself, try to make the situation light! Im sure the grocery store clerks have definitely already forgotten you, so many folks come through a store a day, they only have time to remember vague stories from one day to the next. Some one else has made the same "mistake" you did since then and theyve forgotten about you, and im sure just sum it up to the coupons, not you!
I was at the grocery store a few days ago, and honestly Id be more worried about the folks in line behind you, (which I DOUBT youll ever see again, so who cares what they think!) But a woman held up the line with her coupons, the cashier couldnt get them to ring in the way they should have. I was annoyed while I waited. Sure this subject reminded me of it, but really the furthest thing from important in my mind!
There was an incident where I was made a fool of by another patron at a store, and that I still remember, but am not as angered by it as I used to be. I was coming thru the Chevron parking lot, and this man was 2 gas pumps away from me, I was not going over 10 mph. I parked my car and went inside to buy cigarettes, and the old man told me I was an a-hole and I should slow down. I was a 19 year old girl at this time, and it brought tears to my eyes there was an old man yelling at me for no reason, I didnt want to be disresepctful and yell at him, everyone in the Chevron was staring at me, I said Im sorry you feel that way sir, and he just kept yelling "gosh dam little Bi***" it was really uncalled for. BUT! I cant even remember what he looks like. I didnt want to look at him cause he was being mean. If I ever saw him again, I wouldnt run up to him and say "YOUUUUUU!" Ya know?
Just know that nfolks dont hold onto those little things, just let it go, make it a joke, laugh it off, and go back to the store again, dont go out of your way just cause you made a coupon process mistake. oh well!View Thread
Hey Gsimp you sound alot like I did when I first started here. If you want feel free to search the archives of my posts, and see if you can relate to any of my writings. I feel like this support group helped me ALOT through self realization, and outside point of views to help me think through what was going on with me. I used to get into bad relationship after bad relationship. In fact... right now I am having troubles with my fiance. He is a good man, we have a good relationship, he is just ten years older then me, and maybe doesnt have as much of a sex drive as Im used to in men my age.... My ex boyfriend was a heroin user, and amidst being sex deprived and feeling depressed I somehow ended up talking to my ex about going out, and getting drunk, and being crazy, because me and my fiance got into a fight and it was such a upsetting fight it made me feel a little crazy. And my ex being the loser he is started trying to talk me into sleeping with him, I am so very glad I stopped talking to him, instead of going to his house, because I was very tempted. I have never been tempted to cheat ever before, so this makes me wonder about myself. But I KNOW I have a PROBLEM with choosing BAD relationships, contrary to the fact I knew I shouldnt be with those guys cause they were bad news I went with them anyways... You know what GSimp Im sorry I kind of got lost talking about myself and dont remember where I was going with that. But I feel your pain, I probably am not best to give advice right now, trust me I tried just now and ended up raving about myself, Im sorry. Ill keep in touch with you tho because Im hoping you and your boyfriend can work things out cause he sounds like he cares.View Thread
I second gsimp. My one year old nephew can be quite the handful, and he dislikes being ALONE. If I need to pee he will crawl into the bathroom and watch me. He tries to pull the cover off my fireplace, and I have to yell at him NO, Its HOT! cause he needs to learn not to touch it before he burns himself. He gets so sad when you yell at him, really hurts his feelings. Such a sweetie pie tho I cuddle him and he stops. But I do get annoyed that I can not use the bathroom with out him screaming. But really theres nothing else I can do but put him in his playpen and tell him aunt Lissa is going potty hush hush its ok, and usually he just cries for show, so we know hes not happy. LoL, keep a positive outlook on this BB! Whatever you do dont lose your temper on him, just take a few minutes to yourself.View Thread
I can honestly say the pitfall of my life lately has been my relationships at work. Oh how the tables have turned. A few months ago a huge spat broke out between me and 3 co-workers, and I think I know the source now. Now my co-workers are on MY side. Lets just say... power makes people do mean things to eachother. I have a feeling a BIG change will be coming that could effect me positively here. OR were all going to get fired. I doubt all of us will get fired, if we all group together and voice our true opinions with out being scared or playing games, we could all feel better about our jobs and go back to how things were 4 years ago! I can honestly say my relationship with god is much less than non-existant now. am starting to notice things god has done for me I have a guardian angel for that I am sure, whoever they are has a quick hand and forgiving shove. Always saving me when I am in trouble... Depression is hard, but I am working through this. I dont feel out of control, I feel like I know exactly what is happening with me, and this too shall pass... I need to work on planning my wedding. I need to keep down the stress though and just know that everything will come together in time.View Thread
Jaws! I know exactly what you are describing, some times I come home from work ( I hate work) and usually coming home makes me on cloud 9 cause I can smoke and pet my kitty cat and play my games and put my feet on the table and be who I wanna be! But sometimes Ill come home and just burst into tears and my fiance will come home and wanna know whats wrong I tell him I dont know and to leave me alone for a while til I feel better, thats how I deal with it, I know its just my brain doing its messed up thing it does, and I just give myself time to cry it out til I feel better. Its a little embarrassing to try and explain to my fiance, cause he gets so worried and then I tell him nothing happened to me, and he gets upset at me for making him worry, but I told him if he loves me hell learn to deal with it. How are things with you and youre wife going jaws? Glad to hear you were working things out, hope its still going better, take care.View Thread