Hello. I have had depression for 15 years. I am a 28 year old with treatment resistant depression. My brothers and my dad have always been frustrated and unable to understand me. My mom, though she doesn't understand tries to be patient. My brother's have always ganged up on me. Lazy, pathetic, etc... are the common phrases. My doctor and others feel it is emotional abuse. However they don't understand that. They (my brothers) feel like my mother always takes my side. My brother wanted to move back home, and I was fine. Until he started to make comments about me. Well I snapped and said I don't want him home. He left in a huff. Saying he is done with me. My mom is DEVASTATED. I'm stuck. I can't live on my own and I hate that I cause such a divide. I don't know what to do. My family cannot relate to me, and I feel worse when I upset them. Any ideas on what to do. I apologized, but it isn't enough.View Thread
Thank you all. My mother understands, my brothers feel it is an attitude thing. I have offered to have them come with me to therapy. They do not want to come. I understand their beliefs, however it is maddening that when I offer to have them come and understand they refuse.
I have tried over 20 (at least) different medications. (They consider it resistant after 6 different medications.) I have tried ECT, and had over 15 sessions of that. For my current treatment I am on 100mg of celexa (the maximum dose they recommend is 40) also I am in therapy. The medicine is keeping the depression somewhat under control, however the therapy is my lifesaver.View Thread
NEWSFLASH: many people who function aren't always happy! Depression is a brain disorder, don't fall into the trap of thinking it is a mood. It impairs so many things. When my depression is bad I don't feel depressed, I feel apathetic. I don't care whether I get well or not.
Best thing to do I meet with a therapist. I know you probably don't have the motivation or desire to, but if you want to be better and function know that it must be done.
My solution for when I'm in a terrible mood is to give myself an hour (at most) to mope, whine, etc. Then after that hour I do small things to help feel better. I highly recommend music (encouraging music, or music you will sing at the top of your lungs. Best song to listen to is Jump Rope by Blue October) Get dressed nicely, shower, makeup. Even if I'm not going out dressing better helps. Write in a journal, go out with a friend (but not drink alcohol, or drugs, they NEVER help) And (ugh) a workout can help even if it is just a nice walk.View Thread
Hello. I have been managing my depression for 13 years now. There are times when I'm fine, however this is not one of those times. When I become depressed I stay in bed all day and night. I feel terrible and antisocial. (I see my doctor tomorrow and hope there will be something to do medication wise.) My boyfriend is trying to help me he says. However I feel more stress with him 'helping.' He give me the line "Everyone has depression... You have to fight through it.... Medicine isn't going to fix it...etc" I KNOW you all have heard this from loved ones at some point or another. I want to be alone and do this the way I feel is right. I allow myself 3 days of sadness, write in my journal and try little by little to get back into my life. He is sad that I don't care about anything right now. I am sad about it too, but he is really making me feel guilty. I am to the point I want to avoid any contact with him until I'm better. The lectures and things hurt me so bad. (I understand that is not his intention) Anyone know what I can do to get him to stop trying to tell me how to deal with it? Any advice is extremely appreciated!View Thread
I have the same problem with my boyfriend, father, and other members of my family who don't know why I can't 'snap out of it.' I suggest you let him read up on it a little bit. Sometimes knowledge can help someone understand better. Or are you seeing a therapist? Sometimes letting them go with you to talk helps.View Thread
Please hold on for hope! I have suffered from depression at a young age too. I just want you to know that even though you feel alone and disconnected you are not alone. There is hope, always remember that.
I know how people and relationships are when you are suffering. It is always easy for someone who does not have depression to just tell you to relax and quit worrying. I have had many relationships with people who cannot understand and have patience with me. You need to remember that people who walk away are not the kind of people you want to be with. I worry about being alone and not marrying. However I know that there will be someone who can understand and love me enough to fight WITH me to battle my depression. Remember that. As for medication, I have been on 90 to 99% of the medications out there. I have felt numb like you have, and I even had one medicine that made me sick and half my face go numb, as if I had a stroke. It is a touch and feel for just the right medication. (I have treatment resistant depression, which means I have little response to medication unless in super-high doses. Perhaps you have that?) I have recently been through ECT treatments (they helped my aunt, but not me.) Have you looked into ECT or TMS? It can take a long time to find the treatment for you. However I believe you will find it, because you still have hope for the future and a desire to overcome your depression.
I think that you should look into counseling. It is a wonderful soundboard and they can even help you find ways to work through your worry and anxiety. Having the tools to cope can really help, especially if you put them to use.
I hope this helps you. I will pray for you. (I don't know what you believe but I know that my faith helps me) I just want you to know you are NOT alone (even though you feel like it) Those of us with depression are a family, always willing to listen and support each other, with out telling you that you are crazy and should stop worrying. (Come on! If you could stop feeling this way you would have long ago.)View Thread