Counseling is good, but pick a goal and commit to it. If you are serious about being whole for your kids, then focus on that goal. When times get tough, focus on the goal... When you don't feel like getting off the couch, focus on that goal. There may be times when you don't overcome the lack of motivation, but just get back up on the horse (goal) and run at it again.
Life wasn't meant to be easy. If it was, we wouldn't learn anything.View Thread
For me, clinical depression is a blow to the body and the mind. For me to get everything biologically right again, I have a psychiatrist and counselor that I work when I need to. I really recommend creating a support/treatment team because being depressed feels extremely lonely to me and anxiety is just relentless. My best wishes go out to everyone suffering from depression. Until you've experienced it, I don't think anyone can truly understand the toll it takes. Especially as a wife and mom. I always put me last and feel guilty doing anything for just me. And I am looking at 5 baskets of clean clothes wishing they would just fold themselves...View Thread
I too have been in this situation. After a recent weekend that involved the Co. my husband works for, there...
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I too have been in this situation. After a recent weekend that involved the Co. my husband works for, there were 3 separate incidents in 3 days that rattled my cage so badly I thought this is it! I am so out of here! Then I thought No, the time and effort I have put into this marriage (27 years) & raising of children, now 25- still thinks I'm stupid, but at least doesn't live here & 22 lives here but doesn't lift a finger unless it's her choice, I will not throw in the towel! I do not like confrontation, but I knew I was right. I waited until it was just my husband & I, & told him no verbal response was necessary or desired. Then I told him that if he ever publicly embarrassed me again, I would be gone right at that minute, as it was rude & uncalled for. Not forever, just walk out of situation so that the shoe of embarrassment would be on his foot. The other was that I am not a blood relative, I have his name by marriage, and I have an illness that hits at times that sometimes can't be helped. There is no reason to be embarrassed by a cane, it is not a sign of weakness, but if he thought it was, we could travel separately in public. The 3rd is more personal, but he got the message. I have seen a major change in the past 2 weeks. Don't do anything in the heat of the moment. Step back, think, plan carefully, be calm, & ask for No response or discussion. Let it stew. You may be surprised.
I tried counseling & read everything I can so I can stay in my marriage.View Thread
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I HAVE A VERY CLOSE FAMILY MEMBER WITH SEVERE DEPRESSION, HER MEDICINE IS NOT REALLY HELPING, I KNOW IN...
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I HAVE A VERY CLOSE FAMILY MEMBER WITH SEVERE DEPRESSION, HER MEDICINE IS NOT REALLY HELPING, I KNOW IN ADDITION TO MEDICATION DIET AND EXCERCISE HELP WITH DEPRESSION BUT SHES ALREADY LOST SO MUCH WEIGHT I DONT THINK LOSING ANY MORE WOULD BE HEALTHY AND SHE HARDLY HAS AN APPETITE AS IT IS...ANY TIPS??View Thread
I've been extremely unhappy for four years. I don't want to go to my school psychologist because he is unkind and unhelpful. He is snappy expects my problems to be about schoolwork and not getting enough sleep. I'm afraid to tell him that my problems are much more serious than that. I'm scared to talk to my parents or my adviser at school. I cry almost every day and sometimes I can't even move. I've never had to confront my problems before and now I'm afraid to and don't know the best way to go about it. Please tell me what I should do.View Thread
Serotonin type antidepressants can cause 5-30% of the time- sexual problems such as no orgasm, impotence, no libido. Consider that depression kills (suicide), causes disability, unemployment, more medical problems.... So sometimes being not depressed, not anxious is worth the loss of sex... If you have just started getting better on a drug and quit it a few weeks later due to sex problems, you will likely relapse into depression. The more you start/stop meds, the less they work,, So what do you do,, Get at least a year depression free, give up sex and stay on the med.. After a year of doing great, with your doc's advice, lower off and get back to sex. If this side effect is a deal breaker ask to be switched to wellbutrin XL, Oleptro, Remeron or the new one Viibryd as these all seem to have much less sexual side effects. WHAT IF YOU HAVE TO STAY ON YOUR SEX DESTROYING MED so YOU CAN STAY SANE and switching the med is not an option.. Ask your doc to consider adding wellbutrin, ritalin, buspar, viagra as these sometimes further improve your depression and get rid of the sex side effects. Ask your doc if you can lower your med on friday or saturday a little as this may lower the sexual side effects enough on the weekend to DO IT but only minimally risk any drug withdrawal or depression relapse. Again only do this with permission... Finally, sometimes these antidepressants can improve sex as depression and anxiety can ruin sex too. as depression lifts sex happens. Some people report they have multiple orgasms (women) on these meds and some (men) state they can last longer and have sex longer WHICH IS A SIDE EFFECT but in these cases considered a good thing View Thread
I have a student who is depressed. He has abandonment issues and the death of his mother last summer sent him...
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I have a student who is depressed. He has abandonment issues and the death of his mother last summer sent him into a tail spin. He has run away from school, but more commonly, he acts outs, hurts others, and does not handle disappointment well. He will cry and scream.
I would love to have some suggestions as to how to approach this 7 year old so that he finds school a safe place, and can perhaps forget some of the trauma that has happened in his life.
im under eighteen and have manic depression. i have tried to kill myself three times. i went to a psychiatrist and have been trying pills. none of them work. i love in california so i was legally prescribed marijuana when symptoms arise and before bed. its perfect i have never been happier. i highly recommend it.View Thread
my husband takes this med called mirtazapine and was wondering if there is a higher dosage because he thinks that is what he needs a higher dosage but didn't know if there was one we tryed to look it up but could not find it...please let us know thanks it would be of much helpView Thread
A frequently overlooked cause of depression is obstructive sleep apnea (OSA). Have your PCP order a home sleep test to make the diagnosis and if positive for OSA, treat with a positive airway pressure (PAP) machine. It can put an end to your depression, as well as benefit you in many other ways, like reduce your risk for diabetes, heart attack, stroke... and the list goes on. Treating sleep apnea is a good thing.View Thread
I know everyone out there is frusterated. Living with a depressed spouse can be hard. And you never know what days will be good and what days will be bad. I know sometimes I have been afraid to even leave the house and go to work knowing he may have a suicidal episode. When hes in his depressed moods I find he is quite selfish. Im sure he does not mean to be... but its hard to be the "rock" all the time. I started keeping a blog. And it really helps you vent and say what you want to say. Ponder your thoughts and feelings... heres the link to mine http://lovinghimcarefully.blogspot.com/ and if you start one be sure to let me know...Its honestly helped me so much and i recommend it to everyone out there living with a depressed spouseView Thread
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