QVC and HSN sell L, XL, 1X, 2X, 3X clothes for no more cost than they do their XXS, XS, S and M. They are the exact same clothes except graded for the larger frame woman.
This means you can pick one of the designers that they carry, and they carry many, and you can order, get it home in 5-10 days, try it on in the privacy of your home, and have 30 days to decide whether or not to keep it or return the item.
There are also catalogs that are similar in how they design with their smaller sizes the same cost as the larger and the same identical item.
I think once a woman finds a style or shape that fits her, especially if she has an unusual body challenge and finds a particular style just makes her look great and she gets lots of compliments, take that item of clothing to a dressmaker and have her make at least one more of the item in a favorite color and fabric.
I sew for myself and think that women would find it a good idea every season, summer and fall, to go to a seamstress and have her make an ensemble.....skirt, pants, blouse or top, maybe a dress in coordinating colors that particularly flatter you and each season build on the previous ensemble so that you can wear the pieces interchangeably. Then you are not at the whim of the stores.....
Or learn to sew! Start with a simple skirt or pants with elastic waist; looking for patterns that say easy to sew. It is well worth it!!!
When I was overweight, I was making $2.10 an hour and did not have the money to buy from catalogs and QVC and HSN were not yet in existence. I did do limited sewing when I could but I was working 60 hours a week (and I spent a lot of time eating!!!).
Many people are more worried about being superthin instead of healthy.
What you should be considered with is your
blood pressure any heart issues pre diabetic or diabetic cholestrol any other issue that excess weight complicates
and then if your stomach is over 35 inches if you are a woman. This is even more important than the BMI. I am usually just at 24 to 26 on the BMI but all of the above is very good (very low pulse, low BP, no history of diabetes, great cholestrol, no heart issues, hypothyroid, chronic pain issues unable to work which makes consistent exercise difficult-to-impossible but I do my best with my home exercise equipment).
I also weighed 300 lbs in my early 20's coming from a family with 75% of them having excess weight from 50 to 200 lbs and heart issues, cancer, high blood pressure, fibromyalgia (me too)....
I have lost over 150 lbs and have kept it off (now 55 years old) since that time but constantly fight hunger to try to lose that 15 lbs (would like to weigh 135-140 at 5'5") but from watching weight loss shows, I would guess I have at least an extra 5 to 10 lbs of extra skin on my legs that I do not have the money to have the plastic surgery (I did have the excess skin removed my my arms...batwing surgery).
I never eat out, don't go to parties, rarely eat meat, everything I consume is non and low fat dairy, protein bars, protein powder, flaxseed, cereal, oatmeat, fruit, vegetables....
Never been on Phenertemine but am on over a dozen medications for my headaches, migraines, chronic intractable neck pain syndrome/cervical radiculpathy, osteoporosis, ehlers danlos syndrome, fatty liver/enlarged bile duct (not from alcohol, with no tumor or stones), irritable bladder, reflux and more....
I say take and do whatever works for you but also exercise, find an activity you enjoy doing (mine is ballroom dancing which I have done since 1980) and find an eating plan that works for you that you can stick with 80 to 95% of the time.View Thread
Unless you are a genetic anomally like most models, you would be too thin at 120 and 5'10".
BMI, blood pressure, pulse, cholestrol, any issues with diabetes or heart problems....these are the true factors that we should be concerned with. I was 5'5" and went to Dr. C. Wayne Callaway, leading encrincologist and teacher at Georgetown in DC, and his chart shows that I would be at a good weight from 110 to 165. There is a much broader range for our weight than most have any idea. It is based on these health factors as well as our bone structure and where we carry the weight (are we an apple or a pear.....carrying it around the waist with a waist of 35" or higher for a woman is unhealthy).
.We should all, including myself, think first of our health before we focus and obsess on our vanity. With my BMI of 22.1, no diabetes or heart issues, waist of 30", low B/P, pulse and cholestrol, I am healthy.
You are right about sizing but also depending on the style and intended fit of the garment will also determine which size fits you in any particular item of clothing. Most of us start with our "usual" size and then depending on how a piece of clothing fits go up or down.View Thread
I so understand your "oatmeal and toast" diet as those and cream of wheat, Wheaties, Shredded Wheat, non-fat saltines w/lemon bar, are the mainstays of my diet as well.
You might try eating more dairy and adding Vitamin D to your diet (as your doctor to be tested; I was very low initially and now am at the very bottom of the normal range at 30 .....30 to 60 or 80 is considered normal.
Some physicians and research indicate that eating non and low fat dairy and taking adequate Vitamin D can help with your weight loss/maintenance.
I think we all have to find that balance for ourselves. Unfortunately pregnancies, personal history (I was 300 lbs in my late teens/early 20's and spent years and years yo-yoing), genetics (80% of my family are 75 to 200 lbs overweight), having chronic pain and thus osteoporosis and hypothyroid, my entire life I was pudgy to overweight to obese until the last 2 years.....these factors and others all influence our struggle to lose and keep weight off.
Do you have any exercise equipment or DVDs or like to walk? Anything you can do to add exercise is very important to this... My pulse today was 45 to 48 and B/P 95/60 and also have low cholestrol (160) and am not diabetic and have a waist under 32 to 35 for women are the health factors that are really more important than trying to look like airbrushed models who are not even "real" themselves.View Thread
Nausea and vomiting is a part of my life due to chronic daily headaches and migraines.
I do not take laxatives nor do I vomit like a bulemic.
I throw up when my headaches become migraines and very inconsistently.... I can go months without vomiting and then vomit for 2 days straight and then another time vomit once or twice a week.....
I take anti nausea pills every day and when I vomit I add Phenergan suppositories.
If I did not limit my food, I would again be 165 to 175, a size 12 and a BMI above 25 (unhealthy). It is critical due to my osteoporosis and for my mental/physical health to continue to ballroom dance and dancing when you are heavier is very hard (especially as I also have exercise and cold induced asthma).View Thread
I think women who are whatever size if they have good legs should wear skirts to show them off. I have awful shaped legs even as a size 8 and never wear shorts or skirts shorter than 29" long.
Clothes look better when they fit. Not too loose and not overly fitted. This is true no matter what your size is.
I think finding the right clothes for most women involves trying on many different styles....we come in all shapes and sizes....rectangles, pears and apples and depending on where you carry your weight and how firm it is should determine what you wear and how fitted it is.
I have a 32D rib cage and as a ballroom dancer I wear very fitted camisole underwire cotton/lycra tops normally with some full, gored, flounce, irregular hem skirt with a lot of movement. This makes me look even thinner as I have thin hands, feet, face, shoulders, back and clavicle.
No matter what your size, I think women need to look objectively at their size/shape and dress to enhance their positive attributes at the same time doing whatever they think best to not focus on their not-as-good features.
I think it is challenging for designers to fit on shapely women. They learn to design on size 0 to 4 and on women whose shapes are closer to a hanger or skeleton than to reality. Just watch Project Runway when they have a larger size or real size model challenge. The thinner models are always chosen first (if there is a choice).View Thread
Don't ever give up. I have severe chronic pain and there are days I have trouble getting out of bed/off the couch. But I make sure the days I can, I am out doing my ballroom dancing or using my inside treadmill and inside cardio equipment and weights (that is an investment worth every penny even if you need to go to Pennysaver or the papers and get a used cardio piece of equipment). Once you can do exercise inside with your cool drink, fans on your head (not your body as you want your muscles to stay warm but with the fans I can keep going and not pass out with my low B/P). Then go to Ebay or other inexpensive place and get a heart rate monitor. Some are $9.99 to $19.99 that work very well. This is important that you find your proper heart rate and stay in that zone. For years I actually over exercised and my heart rate was too high. Now I know due to my age and my goals (fat burning) I should stay at 60 to 75% of my maximum heart rate....for me at 52 that means about 100 to 125. Many days I am lucky to feel up to moving up to 100 but most days I am closer to 120 to 135.
Knee pain is very tricky and you need to try exercise equipment (at a store) to find what aggravates and what is ok. Wear braces, tape, ice/compress after exercise. With my fibromyalgia, something is ALWAYS hurting and I have braces for ankles, knees, back, neck and use ace bandages and athletic tape pretty much every damn other place on my body. Take your meds before you exercise to be as pain free as possible (or OTC aspirin, Tynenol, Aleve). If you have had your knee pain for quite a while you may want to alternate heat with ice. Experiment. Elevate your legs the rest of the time propping them up on anything you own if you have to (my varicose veinned legs demand this).
What else can we do? Try to find things you enjoy in life....your pets, family, reading, crafts, whatever and take your mind off food. You should only eat when you are really hungry and then eat very slowly, drinking liquids like hot tea/coffee, water or diet soda all the while to fill you up, and stop at the first inclination of hunger subsiding. Stop eating til you are full. That is what does not work.
Hi, watch Project Runaway? If there is ever a challenge with normal size women, the thinnest always are picked first; and the larger the last. Then the designers always have trouble with designing anything suitable, much less fashionable, for the larger woman...and for here that probably means larger than a 12.
It is much harder for designers to design for larger women. They are not taught at Parsons and other schools of design how to and they don't ever bother to learn. It is challenging because it is a different shape. But it has to be possible. I have seen clothing fashionable on larger women. I loved the way Golden Girls were dressed as one example (the tallest woman slightly larger, I forget her name). She wore flowing garments that were very attractive most of the time.
The biggest thing they need to do is actually try these clothes on the women who will be wearing them. This goes for normal clothing sizes (how many of us are 5'9" to 6' tall and am abnormally underweight???) as well as larger sizes..... Please designers find true sized women for the clothing ranges you are designing for. You are doing a disservice to the public and ensuring that your pocketbook isn't as large as it could be.
30 years ago I weighed 300 lbs. I dressed poorly, wore the same 2 or 3 pairs of pants and maybe 5 or 6 tops. I didn't care what I looked like as I felt miserable. Your clothing shouldn't contribute to this. I am now a size 8 and can wear almost everything I try on with no issue whatsoever. What a difference! But it is very unfair.View Thread