Jis4Judy: I believe that "you" setting reasonable and livable limits on "yourself" is what has brought you to where you are today....flourishing in health and happiness. The ice cream treat was a perfect opportunity to let others in your life continue to see those limits in action. Setting the limits for what you will allow in your life is all part of our growth process. It is something that I work on every day, as I near 100 pounds lost. It sounds trite to say that unless you respect yourself, others will not see the need to do so. You passed his test. A high FIVE to you and keep up the GREAT job!View Thread