Dear Mimakak, I was diagnosed with anorexia right after I turned 13. I was at a healthy weight a year later. I am 20 now, and I have maintained a healthy weight for six years. I know this doesn't make me an expert on how to gain weight healthfully, but I can tell you what worked for me. I know I couldn't have done this without the support and more importantly, the prayers, of my family, friends and teachers. There were a thousand circumstances that seemed orchestrated for the sole purpose of my recovery. First of all, I had two loving parents who didn't deny my problem and got me the help and medication I needed. While I was in the hospital, there was an older girl with an eating disorder who told me how anorexia had negatively affected her life, and she encouraged me to eat. The very day I got out of the hospital was my seventh grade orientation, where I met some of the favorite teachers I've ever had. One teacher in particular became a great mentor and encourager for me. She shared with me that she also had struggled with an eating disorder as a young woman. She told me that something her father used to do to motivate her to eat was take her to have root beer floats. In turn, she occasionally invited me to eat lunch with herself and some other teachers, and we always finished with root beer floats. Without these people praying for my health and encouraging me, I know I wouldn't have recovered. So my first piece of advice is to trust in God and turn all of your worries about your weight over to him. Yes, I'm a Jesus freak, but don't knock it till you try it. Recovery from an eating disorder is a very spiritual experience, so it helps to have a spiritual guide. Second, surround yourself with a good support group that will pray with you and encourage you. Third, think of all the people in your life who see you a s a role model and how they may copy your eating habits. My sister, who is 10 years younger than me, has always been a reminder that my actions effect others. Finally, I would tell you to remember that eating disorders are not solely a physical disease. It is a spiritual disease with drastic physical symptoms. you can't cure the symptoms without first treating the spirit, so your attitude is key. As long as your belief that nothing is wrong outweighs your desire to eat healthfully and live, you won't recover. Simple as that. So, if you are looking for a recipe for recovery from an eating disorder, here are the main ingredients that worked for me: -A good support system -A desire to recover greater than anything else -God
I hope that you can find this advice helpful and applicable to your life whether you have an eating disorder or are just trying to gain some weight. I'll be praying for a solution for you, Mimakak.
I am in the same place you are. I recovered from an eating disorder about five years ago, but now I am overweight. I need to loose about 15 pounds and would like to loose more, but I'm afraid that beginning a diet without the support of friends or family will restart my eating disorder. I never want to return to the mental/spiritual/physical state I was in when I was thirteen. Hands down, that was the worst time in my life. I think the thing that played a major role in my recovery was my baby sister. She was three and I was thirteen, and I realized that I was her role model. I don't know if I would have started eating again if it hadn't been for her. Now she's ten. I'm 20, about to go to college, start my new life, and I'm overweight. My 7th grade teacher,(Who also suffered from an eating disorder,) told me that here is always a part of anorexia that stays with you. She was a great mentor and friend, and I think that what she told me was true. I don't want my impressionable sister to think that dieting is the way to go, but I am also afraid that I will fall into old habits once I leave home and no longer have the security blanket of my little sister's watchful eyes. I wish I could begin a healthier lifestyle in the safety net of my family, but I don't want them to worry about me, so I don't see that happening.
Well, there are my thoughts. I can't find the balance either, and I wish I could. Is there a psychologist or nutritionist that would have any advice for us?View Thread