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Reply: STRUGGLING!

Hey Rachel, The biggest thing I realized is that 90% of me was were I wanted to be and that...

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Reply: Need some insite adive etc.

Doing well enough Kate. Some physical ailments and some rocky emotional times but all in all...

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And I to you shall I listen.

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Reply: Need some insite adive etc.

Hey Kate, While I am free from BP and A I always monitor my condition and what I eat. I...

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Reply: Being a normal eater, is it possible.

Elizabeth, You can find harmony in your eating and weight. I am not going to say it will...

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A Confession

I do not starve myself anymore or B/P. But I guess I could be a candidate for self harm...

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Msare, Through life I have found that thoughts, looks, people, ideas, well just about...

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Msare,

Through life I have found that thoughts, looks, people, ideas, well just about everything is changing. That's why you'll not see a pic of me. That is a snapshot in time that gets older every second. That is who I was then, who am I now?
There are no steadfast rules or a perfect thoughts or a perfect world or a perfect shape.

There is also many people who enter your life that want you to believe in them. It could be a teacher, a boy, a girl, a pastor, your mom, it could be the many commercials or ads. All of them are saying, "Msare, you should look like me, buy my product, follow my idea, or believe what I say is true."

When you say you do not like being average what are you saying? That you believe things will be different? I would like you to consider accepting and believing in yourself for who you are right now. Because even if you lose 5 pounds or whatever you will still not believe in yourself. You are better then that.

Concerning your comment about a year and a half without junk food. You said you were depriving yourself. Hmmm? Here is my little rant. What else are you depriving yourself of? Think of all of the areas that makes a person well balanced. Knowledge, community, nutrition, exercise, health maintenance, stimulation, exploration, comfort, security, etc. Look at all the things in your life and ask yourself if you are depriving yourself of these. Life is a journey that will be short if you just eat cookies. It will be long and dull without a cookie or two.

Remember at the beginning I said life is ever changing so the levels you need of each category changes in the time you are in. There are no concretes, just guidelines to being happier. Right now you are depriving yourself of the love and belief in yourself. you can change that.

I have found learning a new skill can add belief in yourself whether it is how to crotchet, mix music with a video, a dance step. etc.
Do not deprive your life of diversity and new challenges. Thinking that I must look a certain way before I can live will only hold you back.

Damn the torpedoes! Full speed ahead!

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Dear Msare, Your letter strikes a cord in me that was recently plucked. Here is my two...

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Dear Msare,

Your letter strikes a cord in me that was recently plucked. Here is my two cents.

In many areas of our lives we have the willpower to overcome or bear many adversities. Our minds and bodies are very powerful if you give them the right attention and nutrition. All this is well but the right words or connection from the right person can push you to new heights.

The harm is that the wrong people with the wrong words can cut us just as easily. I know for me it was easiest to ignore all people and rely on myself. This is no way to live for any length of time if you want to have a meaningful life. Your heart may be broken, demoralized, and your self esteem put to the test many times. Having guards against the bad people helps. In your mind if you hear a negative comment your have a retort in your mind.

Friends or foes go so far and then you are alone with your own thoughts. You must find a quiet spot in your mind where you can be you if you reach out to the wrong person or if things ever get too bad. I personally would live with little rituals or sayings that kept me sane.

Personally I found shrinks to be merely a vessel of mirrors. It is good to look through someone else's eyes at times. I never had a connection that sparked me to be better with a shrink. To think, yes. With a very few shrinks did I learn new techniques in thinking. That was cool.

My personal recovery came from the simplest of gestures from my weightlifting partner's girlfriend. She made me put down the cookies and ice cream, made me a wholesome sandwich. I took it home. I ate it. I kept it down. And from that point forward I never looked back. Sure there were dark days, but the moment in time took the hurt away.

So... in closing. You can get past this. And you can learn from this. Do not be ashamed or upset. And when it comes to your weight. Average is better then skinny. Average is better then overweight. being you is most important.

Peace,
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Please see a doctor. My guess (which is ONLY a guess) is that you sprained your diaphragm or...

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