So the police went and did a welfare check. He told them he was fine and that he didn't want to leave his parents. He said that he was able to drive as well. He also said that he didn't want anything to do with me. I'm not sure why he keeps changing his mind. One minute he is emailing me and others saying he wants to leave and that he hasn't taken off his wedding ring and then the next minute he is telling me that he doesn't want to leave. I don't know what is going on or what but I guess he doesn't want to leave. I just wanted to update you all.View Thread
If he is in and out of it how does he know what he wants? My husband tells me that he wants to leave but then his mom tells me that he doesn't know what he wants. For instance, if he says, Amy come get me, she says he doesn't know what he wants. He is in and out of it. But if he even remotely agrees with her he is okay. Can someone explain this to me? In my mind if he is out of it then he wouldn't be able to tell me what he wants. Can you please help me understand this? He sounds like he knows what he wants but then she plays it out to be he is sooo out of it that he has no idea what he is saying or what he wants. Is it possible for him to say come and get me and yet not know what he wants?
I've been told to call Adult Protective services to go check on him cause that is their job. I have called them every day this week and last week and I keep getting the run around. I'm passed from person to person and none of them care or even know what to do. And to be quite honest and to the point it makes me angry. I have no idea how my husband is. I don't know if he is okay and they don't seem to care. Do you have any suggestions? Then, I was told to call the police to go do a welfare check. So I did. And they haven't gone. I don't know what to do. He contacted me Friday and said he wanted to leave but then he goes days or weeks without contacting me. I don't understand why he does this. Is it an epilepsy thing or a guy thing? Does the epilepsy make him forget me? I'm so confused. Everyone, police, lawyers, and such, tells me that unless he decides to leave that there isn't anything I can do. They say he is the one who has to press charges for kidnapping. They told me that yes I could take a police officer to go get him but yet he may change his mind and not leave. I'm not sure if its the epilepsy, fear, guilt, or what but its like he will say, I hate it hear I want to leave. I want someone to come get me but then he never follows through with it. But yet isn't there something APS or the police can do? Can't they go check on him? Its like they don't want to. I'm angry at him, his mom, the police, and APS. I feel like I've hit a wall. I don't sleep and I barely eat because I'm worried about him. Its 2:40am here and all I can do is cry because I'm worried. Yes, I know he is an adult. I get that. I hear everyone who tells me that. But he has been completely isolated from me and his other friends and family, no one has heard from him in days, she reads all his mail, email, facebook, texts and ect, I think she is using his ssn for stuff, he isn't supposed to drive, and the last time I heard anything he didn't look good. How do I get help for him? Everyone says he has to be the one to leave but at the same time I'm worried that he has it in his head that he is a prisoner. And I don't know what may have happened to him mentally seizure wise in the last few months. Please help. I'm starting to get discouraged.View Thread
Candi, I looked for you on facebook again and for some reason I can't find you. I have two email address' a gmail and a me.com. The me.com is used for an inactive account. I emailed you the name to search for.View Thread
Candi, I emailed you from my personal email. I tried to email you on here but didn't figure out how so just did it from my email. I also tried to find you on facebook and there were several Jeanne Phelps. And yes, I'm mad. Lol.View Thread
I'm sorry if this makes no sense. I've extremely devastated and worried about him. I"m not sure any of you know what to do but at this point I"m reaching out to everyone. Any advice or help is very much appreciated. Right now I feel like my heart is crushed. About a month and a half ago my husband had a seizure at work and my mother in law, who hates me, decided to take him home because she thinks no one else can take care of him like she can. As the weeks went by it got to the point where she was isolating him from me. Then she started to isolate him from everyone. She has taken over his phone, the apartment lease, and won't let him leave. He isn't able to drive for 6 months so he is stuck there. He has told me a few times that he wants to leave but as soon as she finds out she says he doesn't know what he wants. Basically, if he agrees with her he is okay and if he says he wants to leave then he is in and out of seizures. The last time anyone saw or heard from him was 2 weeks ago and I was told he looked like crap. They said his eyes were sunken in, he looked really thin and he acted like he was being over medicated. I also know he is being threatened. She threatened me saying that if I came to get him she would have the authority to protect her family, she is speaking of gun laws that were passed. She has threatened to have him arrested if he ends up missing because she said she will tell them he is driving. She told me a week ago that he was in and out of seizures and didn't know who he was or where he was and that the doctor was having to be called. Then two days later he asked me to come get him. When I asked when he wanted me to come get him I never got a reply back. I'm very worried about him and I'm scared for him. At this point I"m not sure how he is. I don't know what to do. I know this is an epilepsy group but I was hoping some of you had some advice.View Thread