At 23, I find my self not being able to be aroused. My wife and I have talked, we have tried different things, but nothing seems to work. It gets slightly excited, but not hard and when she is trying to get it hard I can barley feel anything that she is doing. We do not have the money to go to a doctor and we have no medical insurance. We are both full time students and are both currently unemployed. I need to know something that I can do to eliminate possible causes because if I do go to the community clinic I will not be able to afford all the tests. I am overweight, have been since birth and it had not previously affected me, neither had smoking cigs. Could these factors previously not made a difference, but now they are? I need help. My wife and I need help.View Thread