Oh my. Don't give up. Sex in its various forms is a natural body function and is needed to keep the rest of you and your bf in healthy condition. Since he won't agree to a sex therapist, I suggest you be more subtle and have a sex psychologist become your companion so that he gets comfortable with her. She might be able to use hypnosis to get his natural libido back. She might also agree to a one-on-one with him after determining what does energize him. Anyway men and women often get sexually energized by different stimulants and it usually is not as mechanical as turning on the light switch. (Note: if a psychologist is out of range, price wise, you might consult with the dean of a psychiatric school. There might be a student who would be excited about undertaking this project.)View Thread
I had my radical prostatectomy in '99 following a TURP in '84. It isn't easy but worth the effort so keep at it. If you need help with stiffness, I suggest you try BHGH which is herbal, no known side effects, no hi pressure marketing, and good record of achievement. For arousal I go to c4s.com/studio 7373.View Thread
I wish you well and that you find someone whom you can love for many years (I was with only my wife for 62 until her demise). Anyway, I don't agree with the theory that masturbation reduces anything. It all depends on technique. The important thing is "if you don't use it, you lose it." so take care of yourself. Abstention only leads to more disappointment.View Thread
Further to his pleasuring you, assuming he's willing. You might try fondling him. If he can't get a hard-on, hopefully he's interested in a solution which has high "success" reports from men...go to http://askmenanswers.com/phgh-rx-review/ for more commentary. Yes, it works and without known side effects. Sometimes, people (male and female) are not comfortable tallking about sex. So you might try various subtle approaches. People react differently. You might try playing a clip from c4s.com/studio 7373 while he's asleep. Following the hand movements of Klixen or Daniela while he's asleep might have good results. After a few times of this subtle pleasuring of him, pleasure yourself, maybe with a vibrator. Maybe he will take over and bring you to orgasm. Different people have different subjective responses is my point so don't assume negatively just because one try doesn't work.View Thread
so what was it that you tried? Even if he cums in a split second, keep fondling him slowly and have him tease you in between your efforts with him. I don't agree with masterbation having negative consequences as it tends to keep the system alive and well. Why focus on penetrative sex? Pleasuring each other, either hj, bj, or with toys, can also be satisfying. Most women get more pleasure with hand and mouth fondling their tits, clitoris, and vulva, not deep penetration. And with him you have to learn how to tease and stop to control his excitement. That's why I suggested c4s.com/studio 7373 because she is superb at slow but sure with a positive attitude. Don't give up, but be positive with him, not disappointed. Even when he cums quickly, show enjoyment, not disappointment. Maybe he's one that can cum several times like the boys at Studio 7373.View Thread
I really feel sorry for you. Does he show appreciation for female beauty? You might consult a sex therapist. Please don't give up. I know it is difficult to keep the subject alive in your thoughts but don't press for a quick solution since it may take a long time. You shouldn't give up sex for yourself. It's one of the natural functions you need to pleasure yourself. A therapist can help you with this also. Whether you should "play with yourself" in front of him depends on his mentality...it may take some time for him to accept it, but don't expect quick solutions. Sometimes attitudes change subconsciously. If you get with a therapist who has patience you could introduce him/her as an acquaintance and let them develop a relationship gradually. But for heaven's sake, don't stop pleasuring...I don't believe our bodies/minds remain in good condition w/o it. I don't find most porn enjoyable myself or my wife but Klixen has produced a large library of clips and in them she has a variety of moods so you might look at her clip descriptions and view different ones at c4s.com/studio 7373. They are not expensive. You can even send Klixen an email for her advice at no cost. Good luck and don't give up.View Thread
Hi triplea6997, Further to my earlier comment, I think you would benefit from the "tutorials" "K soft leather contact," and "Klixen lip service" found at clips4sales.com/studio 7373. It takes a little practice but we found it most enjoyable after learning how. Good luck!View Thread
Please don't despair. He may be one of the lucky ones that can cum with a little loving help from you. Be slow and patient. You'll both enjoy it if he pleasures you which will also encourage you to keep him progressing to the finale. It's good for you!View Thread
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