All I feel qualified to comment on is performance anxiety. If you find a girlfriend that is willing to accept intimacy without a penis and work with you on your ED issues, you should be ok. A significant percentage of women can't orgasm through intercourse and require other stimulation. Some women think that sex is only intercourse and if you have premature ejaculation or ed issues it won't work. I had a girlfriend that wanted only intercourse and my premature ejaculation issues killed that relationship. My first long term girlfriend required other stimulation and I was able to satisfy her and eventually overcome my issues. Eventually she was able to orgasm through intercourse. I'm now dealing with ED issues and my wife only wants intercourse now, to it isn't working.
Find someone supportive and you can work through your performance anxiety issues.View Thread
If spontaneous only involves an erect penis, he's being set up for failure. If he knows that you will let him satisfy you by other means he's guaranteed success. Being in bed with a passionate woman is a huge turn on even if he can't get it up. That way either one of you can initiate sex any time you feel like it. If you both agree, he takes the pill and pleasures you until he's ready. A woman can just lie there and either orgasm or not. A man has to be able to get it up and satisfy his partner. It's a lot of pressure.View Thread
I'll post my background at the bottom. If this information is too graphic, say so,
I took 1000mg of Yohimbe at 6:00 am on an empty stomach. At 7:00am I was able to achieve a maximum erection for me which is about 85% of what I had before I had ED problems. I was able to orgasm and maintained the erection for another 5 minutes. An hour later I was able to get about an 80% erection. The side effects were a jittery like over caffeinated feeling that lasted about 4 hours.
Background: 67 years old about 50 pounds over my ideal weight and taking low dosage high blood pressure medication. I know Yohimbe is not a good idea, but have no family history of heart problems. I have tried levitra and cialis which isn't effective as my experiment. My normal regimen is 6000mg of horny goat weed a day and that produces about a 70% erection and might be acceptable for intercourse. I have no side effects. The last two times my wife and I made love was less than a year and more than 4 months ago. I was able to pleasure her manually and was able to orgasm after a very short time with a minimal erection. I was taking no ED meds or herbs. My wife greatly prefers intercourse and me not being able to provide it was disappointing to her. The only way I can get her to want to try again is if I can demonstrate to her that I can have a decent erection and then only if she is in the mood. Not having an erection is a huge turn off for her and so she is very unlikely to consider sex.
Plan A should be to lose the 50 pounds and be able to hopefully get off the blood pressure meds. That will be difficult because I have a problem with my feet (not diabetic) that limits the amount of walking I can do. I don't have the time for swimming and dieting alone doesn't work well without exercise. I have stationary bike, but due to other physical problems I don't sleep well and am tired. I'm going to push through it and get on the bike. This will improve my health and hopefully my erection.View Thread
Diffferent situation, but simular issues. My wife can only initiate sexual activity. I need to be ready at a moments notice. I use to get jumped just as I got home from work. At age 60 I had no ed issues. After then they started showing up. I am quite capable of having intercourse, but my wife wants to see an erection before anything starts.
I got a free 30 day trial everyday Cialis. It worked ok but paying $200 a month and taking pills every day at the chance my wife would be in the mood which could be months or years apart. This might be a solution for you and your husband. If the medication worked for him, he would be ready 24/7.
I don't know much about you or your husband, age, sexual activities, sexual experience. I had my first girl friend at about age 30. We dated for months and did nothing but passionate kissing and hugging. One day she had enough and asked me to bed. I was about ready to explode and she wanted immediate intercourse. I didn't last very long and that was the end of our sexual and other relationship. My second girlfriend asked me to bed on our first date. She allowed me to satisfy her orally and manually prior to intercourse and she became my sexual soul mate. We had a lot of fun.
Sex is more than intercourse. He should be able to pleasure you without his penis. Using Viagra, he would take the pill and you could do all kinds of great things to each other; kissing, hugging, fondling until he is hard and then intercourse can begin.View Thread
I checked costco and it was more expensive. I have a prescription from my HMO and it is around $10. It doessn't work very well for me. You can probably get a30day free trial for daily Cialis. I use horny goat weed, take it daily and spend about $50 a month. Never tried generic levitra or Canadian pharmacies.View Thread
I take 3000mg of Source HGW, twice a day and there is absolutely a positive efffect. Since it is a herb the effectiveness will vary by manufacturer. I started noticing ED symptoms about 3 years ago and I wish I had tried it then. Now, it helps me get a moderate erection.View Thread
He sounds very young and immature. I can only think of one reason for chosing masturbation over sex with a willing parnter, he believes it will take the relationship to another level and isn't willing to take that step.View Thread
Talk to him and find out what is going on. You have to let him know that what is going on now is not ok.Tell him what you want. It may not be you, his sex drive may be down the tubes. Testosterone isn't the answer if you have BPH or a history of prostate cancer.
He may think that intimacy is just foreplay and you expect intercourse. Talk to him.View Thread
Having a good erection is very important to a man and being a good lover should also be important. Failure in these two areas is very damaging to the male ego. Early in a relationship both partners go out of their way to please, later on not so much. If he feels like a failure he's going to stop trying. My first long term lover at first couldn't orgasm very easily through intercourse. I have a very high sex drive and my problem was orgasming too quickly. I satisfied my partner orally and manually and this made me feel good about myself. Eventually intercourse was successful for both of us. I'm not big on the romantic things, but am big on intimacy. I would be content, being physically intimate and being fondled.
Try to make him feel comfortable with sexual activity even if intercourse isn't successful. Making him feel like he's not a failure. Viagra is an admission of failure and makes sex less spontaneous. If he feels good about the love making, it may turn out that he might not even need it.View Thread