I've struggled with ED my whole life. After trying a lot of other things -- therapy, Viagra, testosterone replacement -- I finally found Cialis 5mg for daily use. It is a miracle. My performance is better than it has ever been, and my anxiety is completely gone.
Problem: My wife hates the fact that I need medicine to help me. She distrusts conventional medicine anyway (and insists more therapy, dietary changes, etc. are the real answer), but also thinks I need the drug to be attracted to her, even though I've explained that's not how it works.
So, how do I talk to her about this? How do I persuade her that we should be celebrating the fact that I found something that works for me (not everyone does) rather than fighting about whether to simply accept this gift from God?View Thread
Thanks, PeterPanther. Thing is, even if she believes that I'm still attracted to her, she is convinced that taking a pill is the easy way out, a "band aid approach". She doesn't think I have a physiological problem...and the truth is, maybe I don't. But whether it is physiological or psychological --- or, most likely, a combination of the two -- I have found a way to resolve it, and I just don't understand what's wrong with an easy solution. Anyway, as I said in my reply to another post, I think we have at least a tentative agreement on how to proceed. If cutting down on drinking and continuing therapy for a couple of months to deal with the anxiety element don't work, I suspect she'll come around. We shall see. Anyway, thanks again for your input. I really do appreciate it.View Thread
What are you doing in this thread, jcsilverfox? I mean, if you go back and read my post you will see that this conversation is about ED...which stands for erectile dysfunction. That means that even though I love my wife and am attracted to her, and even though she sometimes gives me a hot wet kiss, takes my hand and leads me to the bedroom.....sometimes I can't get an erection. There is a physiological component to this and a psychological component to it, but that's not really the point. The point is, I have found something that enables me to have a physical response that accurately reflects my love and attraction to my wife, but she is extremely uneasy with the solution I have found. Several people have provided very good and useful thoughts on how I may be able to deal with this situation -- which was, after all, the point of my original post. You either don't understand my problem, or (worse) are minimizing it. Either way, it isn't helping and I wish you would go hijack someone else's post. Thanks.View Thread
Thanks for the reply, Doug. At some point, I'm pretty sure it's going to take a third party to persuade her that this is OK....it's normal, safe and it has nothing to do with her. And if she still won't come around, I guess I'll just have to let it roll and see what happens. She can't really complain about my performance if she's denying me what I need to perform.....View Thread
I'm really looking for guidance from someone who has had to talk to their wife about his need to take Cialis. Like I said, it works great for me and I couldn't be happier with it....but the wife hates the idea.