You need to make your partner understand that the absence of spontaneous sex due to ED doesn't mean you're not attracted to her physically anymore or that you no longer have an appetite for sex with her. ED is simply a physical deficiency caused by the inability of our body to pump in extra blood into the glands of our sexual organ to maintain an erection during intercourse - that is all. It has nothing to do with loss of attraction or libido. I am sure if you can clearly explain this fact to her or have her doctor explain it to her - she will not only understand but also be more caring about your sensitivities, including performance anxiety.View Thread
This has always intrigued me so allow me to bring it up. Not too long ago, I had a strong erection while sleeping naked with my ex who was sleeping curled up in fetal position with her back to me, so without wanting to wake her up - I started rubbing my penis on her vulva. This made her so wet that I was able to gently slide my penis all the way into her vagina, so I held her gently and kept moving in and out ever so softly until I ejaculated inside her. It was only then that she suddenly woke up and turned around asking me what was I doing. I simply slipped a small towel between her legs and somehow managed to lull her back to sleep.
Next morning, she confronted me again about my naughtiness and I apologized adding that while I didn't want to wake her up, the temptation to penetrate her from behind was just too strong - especially when I noticed that her vagina had become so wet. But to this day, I sometimes still wonder if she was actually awake and enjoying it while pretending to be asleep. Does anybody else think she was faking it?View Thread